5 Reasons to Learn About Marriage Before Getting Married
Marriage is one aspect of a person's life that greatly affects the person. Some people just like the concept of marriage because they like the idea of a beautiful bride in a beautiful white dress and a handsome groom in a suite. It feels good to imagine you are the one. Some others just hate the concept of marriage because of the high rate of failed marriages around.
Whichever group you belong to is not a satisfactory position to be in. You may say those whose marriages are working are just lucky. Well I do not agree with you on that because, some people whose marriages were going sour, did something to save it and it got saved. This suggests that those whose marriages are working know something that those whose marriages are failing do not.
However it is not enough to stay away from it because others failed at it or go into it because you like the idea since it is not about idealism but about what works and what does not. Therefore it is of great importance to get as much knowledge as you can before getting married or deciding against it. I will give you five solid reasons why you must know about marriage before you go into it
To appreciate marriage for what it is and not what you think it is
Many get knowledge about every other thing about life and leave marriage out. Thank God for some churches who organise marriage classes for those who are about to wed,. Even though many couples depend on that it is not the best timing because at that time many couples may be too excited to understand what they are being taught. It is best to know what you are about to do before your engagement. You shouldn't just get married because you are the only single one among your friends or because your parents and society seem to be satisfied with seeing you married. You must be married because you see it as something you want to do.
To make the right choice
Making the choice of a partner is beyond looks and love. A good knowledge of marriage would help you determine who is fit for it and who you can work things out with.You can meet someone who you love and admire, who may not do well as your spouse.This may sound absurd but some have stubbornly found themselves entangled with the wrong spouse and either get divorced or frustrated. Marriage may not be a set of rules but certain basic rules must apply. When you understand what is involved in marriage, you will get to know what you want and the kind of spouse you can live with This way your choice of a partner will be more appropriate.
To know how to handle issues on your own when you get there
In marriage there is no such thing as perfect, there has to be issues. As a matter of fact a marriage without issues is a marriage to fear.Surprising huh! It is what it is. What makes marriage stand up strong is the manner in which one handles the issues involved. Handling things the wrong way can make a big mess of your marriage. On the other hand if things are handled the right way, you will have the best marriage ever. A marriage counselor can only give you good guidance but you have to live the married life.
To discern between good and bad counsel
It is so sad that some people have broken marriages because they listened to what they should not have listened to, and took actions they should not have taken. All these happened because they could not differentiate between good advice and bad advice. Not everyone you talk to about your marriage has the right approach. Some of them may have bad intentions towards your marriage while some may have good intentions but lack knowledge to put you through. Remember many have dated but not all have been married successfully.
To know how the mind of the opposite sex works
It is okay to say not all men are the same and not all women are the same but there are general things about manhood and womanhood that apply to every man and every woman. This can never be ruled out in marriage because, it is natural that your spouse is not of the same sex as you. So you can not treat your husband like a woman or treat your wife like a man. You have to treat them with caution based on the knowledge you have about their gender.
With these reasons I believe it is clear that plonging into marriage before knowing about it wont help.
Wishing you the best!
