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Fear & Self-Control
It is a common misunderstanding that a brave man is a man without fear. That is not true. Such a man is a fool; in a war he would be the first soldier to die. The brave man is afraid, but defeats his fear, doing what he has to do anyway. Being afraid makes him careful and intensifies his sensory perception; his mind becomes clearer, his concentration stronger, and his reflexes faster. Both mind and body are in a state of increased awareness and efficiency. Fear is essential, even crucial for survival. But it has to be combined with self-control, lest it leads astray completely and becomes a liability, a barrier to growth. In modern life, many fears are out of all proportion to the corresponding risks. Sometimes there is no risk at all. One of the most common of these fears is to be afraid of failure, often to the extent that an attempt is never made. Usually it has nothing to do with the task of the moment, but everything with the loss of prestige or self-esteem a failure would cause. Yet failures are as mistakes: we can learn from them. Not doing that is a shame, but a failure is not. Another widespread fear is that of the unknown. Justified to a degree, it is hardly kept within reasonable limits in most cases. It is always easy habitually to choose the safest and best-known course, for no other reason than slight unease or sheer indolence. But if you never take a step into the unknown, if you never tread a new path, you will stop growing. You will never discover anything new, and never learn anything. I do not mean that one should unreflectedly throw oneself into everything that turns up, just because it is new. That is foolhardy, and would rapidly destroy one's life, one way or another. There are other values to consider, some of which might take precedence. Habitually avoiding the unknown, however, even in small things, when no other cherished values are threatened, and when there is no actual risk, but doing it just because it is easy; that is foolish too. (This article is based on material previously published in Meriondho Leo and in my e-book “Reality & Mind”) Copyright © 2020 Meleonymica/Mictorrani. All Rights Reserved.
23 comments
I love taboo topics like this!
Why do you consider it taboo? I cannot see why it would be. Thanks for the donation.
Because very few people want to talk about their fears! Spread the message. 💚
Fear is in-born in any man, but can be controlled as you've said. Inability to control fear is the most dangerous thing.
It is dangerous for as well the one who fears as the environment. People with uncontrollable fear often get in panic and lose all common sense.
I love this article! Very motivational!
Self control is the ability to control one's emotions. In other words According to studies, self-regulation, whether emotional or behavioral, was proven to be a limited resource which functions like energy. We need to practice how to control ourselves in term of angers.
Yes, I think we need to practice to obtain self-control. It is not just there by itself; it's something that must be learned.
In doing the initial self-control we must do is that we should be able to control our hearts, because the heart is very powerful over insight, thoughts, actions, someone as an example; when anger rises, the mood often becomes unrestrained. the pressure that keeps piling up continues to swell until it reaches its boundary point, and continues to pile up, approaching the unbearable critical point.
Self-control, an aspect of inhibitory control, is the ability to regulate one's emotions, thoughts, and behavior in the face of temptations and impulses.
I enjoyed reading it. You made me already smile with your first lines. It's time to quit with the old quotes who doesn't make sense at all. 👍💕
Yes, many old quotes make no sense at all. To be honest, some do, but far from all. This was my only article for which I had no community, then I found yours here and thought it could fit in.
Yes, it is not by might but cleverness. No wonder giant Goliath fell before dwarf-like David. This is great.
Thank you, @Olad.
Good and valuable article. Thanks to share it.. In this situation we all are need psychological knowledge.
All knowledge is valuable; knowledge of self is priceless. I suppose you refer to the covid-19 pandemic when you write "this situation"?
If one's you can overcome Your fear, you will be more stronger. Nothing in the world can then stop you. Such a beautiful topic.
Yes, if you overcome your fear, you'll become stronger. Every time you can defeat your own weakness, you'll become stronger.
Yeah. That's the main point and very one should focus on it.
A very true and reflective piece. Fear is certainly one of the greatest limiting factors we face in the quest to reach our dreams;. While the strength gained by finding the courage to overcome our fears, one of the most liberating experience we can have. Without fear we would not grow and without courage we can not be free. Thank you for this important reminder in this time of disproportionate fear. Now we as human being, need to acknowledge our fears; our fear of a virus, our fear of death, our fear of pain, our fear of what others may think of us, and find the courage to live our lives free of the tyranny of fear both within us and without. Thank you for sharing.......go well.
Very wise words. Actually, you mention something very important here, that we must acknowledge our fears. It must begin there. Only when have done that, we can defeat them as well. Thanks for your comment, which really added value here.
This article gives me more understanding about fear and how to handle it
Indeed. A brave man is one who overcomes his fears. I can't agree any less. Your works are good. Keep it up