Me and you sitting on a tree.

11.15.22

Let me share these lyrics from Westlife's song, Flying without wings.

Everybody's looking for that something

One thing that makes it all complete

You find it in the strangest places

Places you never knew could be

Some find it in the face of their children

Some find it in their lover's eyes

Who can deny the joy it brings

When you've found that special thing

You're flying without wings

Before we can fly without wings, one must date. Some people were lucky to find their match on the first try. Others like me needed to take time to get to know more people and make mistakes for us to find and know who is match gonna be.

Well, I am happy to say that I found mine. But before we ended up married, I made sure that I stick to some rules so I won't end up with the wrong person again.

This answers the question...

What are your most important rules when going on a date?

Do a background check

Whether you met someone online or in person, you better do a background check. If you met them from a friend, in a bar, or somewhere else, ask around to know more about that person. Why not ask them personally? Good question, other people tend to show off on the first date so you better find out for yourself if it's true or not.

Communicate

Communication is the foundation of dating. Probably, you'll not go on a date if you weren't in constant communication with the other party. This is also one way to gauge if you should push through dating or not.

Be honest

About my first rule, we don't have to show off all the time. Some girls or guys don't like that, it's only good for a fling. If you're looking for a relationship, you better tell that person who you are.

Straight to the point

Dating is tricky. Some may look for a fling, one-night stand, friends-with-benefits kind of thing, but the main reason why I date is to look for a partner for life. Have the decency to let the other party know what your intention is so you don't have to waste your time, effort, and feelings for each other.

Introduce to your family/friends

This is the last rule that's important to my list. Letting that person into your life is crucial, so you'll need someone else's opinion to make sure that you're making the right decision for yourself. The right person will not be bothered being introduced to your family or friends because he/she would want to know more about you from other people's perspectives. From then, you would know if you'll go to the next step, exclusively dating.

Personal experience

I have been in different kinds of relationships and I always thought that I'd be married to someone I knew like a familiar person or a friend, but I was wrong.

I've met or even had relationships that didn't match the rules I had in mind. Since my exes were people I already know, I don't have to do the first rule. The other rules weren't met. I have experienced being ghosted, lied to, making me guess what they think, and wasn't introduced to the family. I say, if any of my rules weren't met, it'll be a red flag for me.

Oh before I forget, I am now married to a man who I met on a dating site and had an LDR relationship with. I never thought of doing or being in such a setup but surprisingly, it worked on us. How? I followed all my rules on dating. Now my heart has been flying without wings ♥♥♥

Originally posted on Hive as an entry for a contest

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