You're Not Alone!

Have you ever wondered and felt like you're just drifting in the sea of life, like you have no definite direction and destination? You know, that feeling where you wake up in the morning and you really don't want to get up, where you need to ask yourself for reasons why you should get up and still you can't find one good answer? You probably have, almost all of us have, but if you're one of the very few whom never had to struggle with that feeling, I really envy your very perfect life.

In a world where everyone seem to be so purposeful and goal-oriented, where everyone seem to be so sure about what they want to do with their lives and are seemingly achieving so much, it's almost impossible not to feel left behind, not to feel like you're wasting your life. I know, I really know.

This feeling is mostly compounded by the lavishly successful lifestyle people display on social media. It seems like success is becoming easier for people all around us, online and offline while at the same time, it's getting farther out of our reach. It's even worse for certain kinds of people, especially those who get bored easily and burn out fast.

Most of the time, this feeling stems from two things which are a lack of the knowledge of one's purpose and passion and secondly a habit of perpetual unhealthy comparison. Most of the people you see flaunting wealth and success all over the place, most of the time are telling one part of the story, or are faking a story that isn't true at all. This is especially true for the online space where every Tom and Harry seem to be rich, affluent and successful. It's almost like it's only me and you who aren't successful on social media. Trust me when I tell you this, it's mostly lies, something Nigerians have refined and termed packaging. It's basically people faking what they are not just to either feel better about themselves or to belong. It's just a mechanism of denial. The problem with that is, you can't fix a problem you don't know or admit you have.

I know this doesn't address how to deal with that feeling, but you should know you're not alone. The fact that you don't live in denial of your reality already makes you better positioned than others to get out of the puddle of negative feelings.

The best approach to getting out of that place is to learn to be grateful for the little things you have. A grateful attitude can do a lot for the uplifting of one's spirit every time. Seeing the things that you should be grateful for help negate the feeling of failure and lack. You should also surround yourself with positive friends. Another ammo in your arsenal to fight against that feeling is to stop comparing yourself against others, especially people who are far ahead of you. This will only constantly cause you to feel let down. You should strive to be better everyday and compare yourself against only who you were the day before. Stop looking at things in big leaps, rather look at progress as a process, one step at a time, one day at a time. Slow and steady they say, wins the race. Lastly try to identify things that you love doing, things that gives you joy, master them and let them make a way for you.

Author's Epilogue

I know these methods might seem unreasonable to you, but trust me friend, they work. You just have to believe they work before you attempt them. A little faith in the process helps a lot.

Thanks alot for reading...once again you give me reasons to continue.

Mhizutty the voice of truth 🎵🎶🎵