Wisdom In Kindness

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2 years ago

In community: Naija Wazobia(9ea9)

I've been trying to come up with an article for the most part of the evening, but my tired body and mind seem to be failing me in that regard. My day was both stressful and eventful. I've had to wake up really early since the beginning of this week due to the fact that I switched stations and need to evade the morning traffic jam that's usually on my route. Waking and leaving home as early as 5:00AM has proven to be the only effective escape, and that's what we've been using, and naturally it has come at a price.

While the decision to leave that early might be saving time and fuel, it has also eaten away at my sleep and rest. I can't even do other activities that I usually do, because by the time I get home, clean up, cook and eat, it's already really late and I have to get to bed if I hope to wake up early enough. I've been sleeping relatively little since Monday and it's beginning to take it's toll on my health, and I really don't know what to do. As if that wasn't enough, I had to stand while receiving a class for over three hours even though I already had pain in my leg. Now my leg is swollen and is really hurting. Anyways, let me not bore you further.

Lately, I've been observing how certainly people willingly, knowingly and cunningly take advantage of other people. I'm naturally a kind and understanding person, and normally that's a virtue, but the actions of some people are beginning to make me reconsider. I've watched over time and see that people who are kind and understanding are always taken advantage for and on top of that, they tend to be taken for granted.

This has happened to me a lot actually, but I try to rationalise or help the offending party by making up 'reasonable' excuses on their behalf. Sadly, more than 90% of these kind of people will still do it again, and again and again and again as long as you keep tolerating it. This has made me to start considering toning down on the whole 'understanding' thing.

It's really unfair that people will just refuse to do right and in generic manner of speaking, be enjoying where they didn't show and expect the owner to 'understand' and do nothing about it. For example, there are certain students who don't put in the world in their academics at all, only to start being all friendly with the bright minds in the class towards examination period.

This is why it's really important that we learn to live the Ying and the yang. I'm almost all Ying and that's why people can willingly take advantage of me, because they know and expect that I will understand and won't even see it as it is. I think I'm going to start been less understanding especially in certain cases where people are trying to unnecessary take advantage of me. I've had enough really.

Author's Epilogue

I'm not saying kindness is wrong. What I'm saying is, kindness without wisdom and moderation will cause one nothing but unnecessary pain. It pays to be kind and understanding, but it's wise to protect yourself against exploitation.