Understanding and acceptance!

Howdy guys...so today I went to visit some friends and we just got talking about our past and the friends we used to have that have now married and some have led their life off in a different direction and so on.

We also remembered the ones that have died and it brought back a pang of sadness as I felt so pained remembering them and the times we spent together in the past. May their souls rest in peace, Amen!

All of the talk made me come to see how much things have changed. I just couldn't help but imagine how in the past, I would not have believed that things will be this way. I'm sure if I were asked how things would go, I would say me and all my friends will still be together like we were in times past.

Change is bound to occur, no matter how hard we fight it. The sooner we accept that people are meant to grow apart and focus on their personal lives, the better for us and our friendship.

I say this because while we are kids we have nothing to worry about and the only things we ever think about revolves around playing and more.

We became teens and we wanted to spend more time with our friends and bond some more. We were in need of approval from our peers, so those relationships meant the world to us.

It's never the same thing for adults because with adulthood comes alot of responsibility, that sometimes hanging out with friends is the least of one's concern.

Just as friends are different, so also are their backgrounds and status. We need to understand that the things we have easy and in surplus might be what our friends are striving to get, hence the reason why they can't attend those parties and meetings.

I've had similar challenges with my circle of friends. As much as I had my own blames, I just couldn't believe the way they reacted especially when I got involved in a relationship and started to spend more time and build a future with my boyfriend.

This new development made things amongst us get weird and they said nothing about it and just continued like nothing happened meanwhile our relationships were beginning to pull apart.

Thank God we seem to be past that stage, I think everyone has now come to understand that despite we have a duty to each other, we have a duty to ourselves too.

As much as changes will occur, they should be accepted by all else the end will be bad for all parties involved. Understanding is one thing and acceptance is another. And frankly I do not think there will ever be one without the other.

It's funny how marriages, movement to a new city, admission into college and many more can affect relationships. This is because the parties involved have not opened their minds to the possibilities of changes occuring.

The sooner we accept that things will never be one way forever, the better for us all.

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Author's Epilogue

I'm very much open to change and amongst my circle of close friends things have been changing alot and are still changing and will continue to change. All I pray for is that the friendship itself is not lost irrespective of status, location or wealth.

I very much keep and open mind and that's the best anyone can and should do.

The friends I went to see today were once close to me, so close, but then distance set in. Seeing them today, we still bonded and talked just like old times and it was like we never experienced any change at all.

This is how it should be, it's not easy but it's worth it.

Thanks for reading my thoughts...

Mhizutty the voice of truth 🎵🎶🎵