Glaring injustice!

Happy mothering Sunday to all mother's out there....hurray!

Yesterday has been quite a day cos I spent most of it outside my house. A few friends called me earlier in the week and we planned how we would visit another of our friend who just put to bed. Frankly, it had been three months since his wife gave birth, but we’ve been too busy to visit so we had to plan a visit because anymore delay would mean that we would be visiting a grown-up and no longer a baby.

I was very annoyed today during the beginning of the journey cos my friends made me furious. since we all did not know the house the person we were visiting, we planned on meeting at a spot very close to the house which we all knew so that we could all leave together. We all agreed to be there by 1pm s we could finish up and still have time for our other activities.

Humans being humans, I got to the meeting point and surprisingly I was the only one. Amazed at the turnout, I picked up my phone and began to dial numbers only for them to say that they were on their way. I understood that something could have come up, so I looked for somewhere to stay cos the sun was hot like the gates of hell.

Then came the real problem. Tell me, why can’t people just keep to time? I don’t know how bad it is where your are from but here in Nigeria which is the country where I reside, people have it so bad.

I mean how does someone fix a time and end up coming an hour later? Yes, they kept me standing for over one hour and you know what was worse, I didn't have any lunch cos I was trying to keep to time. Little did I know that I was just rushing for nothing. I used to think that I was worse at showing up on time, but yesterday's event just proved that I'm not as worse as I think.

As much as I'm still angry at the ordeal I went through, that's not what today's article will be about. Rather, it will be about the discussion I had with those friends of mine.

Thank God today is Sunday so it fits perfectly well that I'll be talking about church. Most churches in my country have these rules like no wearing of trousers, ear rings, makeup and many more. While these rules are pertinent for members of the church, it almost more binding on the workers with more emphasis on the choir department.

I am streamlining this to the choir because they are one of the most important parts of a church as music cannot be shoved off and I have singlehandedly experienced the treatment that they get to face simply because of their seeming importance.

I am a big fan of the too much of everything is bad phrase but what I don't support is when rules are being barked out from a place of dictation and bullying. Consider the scenario, every normal girl in a church can apply makeup to church, paint their nails and wear slightly short skirts but females in the choir are not allowed to one bit.

Not that there is allowance for slight makeup, it is strictly prohibited. My question is why? Is this the way holiness and righteousness should be maintained? Is this what the Bible teaches that we are to pay more attention to the physical than the spiritual? Really I can't understand this at all.

The ladies wear their skirt and you are saying it's all too tight but you are complementing sister Anne who is wearing an even more tighter skirt I don't get what going on.

The double standard is appalling and is something that I will never accept. How does a pastor say that as a member of the choir you can wear what you want outside the church there's no problem, but in church your skirts must be free and touch your ankles. Furthermore he says no makeup and no nail painting. What makes matters worse is that his own wife gets to do all of this and there's no problem with it. Infact he says honey you look awesome today.

If this is not a perfect display of hypocrisy then I don't what is. I really want to know why choristers are always put through so much stress and laws when even God has said that the physical is not what he is after. How do you turn a 22 year old choir member into an old woman just because she is a member of the choir? Sad really.

I know not all churches are guilty of this, but majority are. If there are going to be rules, they should be binding on all and sundry and not just on the selected few which most times is always the choir.

Encouraging double standard should not be the way of life. Choristers should be able to live the same life in and outside church cos God is everywhere. They should not feel bounded by the appalling laws that we make.

Mind you, I'm not saying discipline is not required, but there should be modesty even in discipline so everyone can be happy. Why is it that only the guys gets disciplined? What about the boys in their tight trousers? Or do boys not have anything to show?

Author's Epilogue

The conversation was a pretty headed one as I was displeased with alot of things but I made my point and so did my friends. Sadly I couldn't convince them.

I am not against the church or any church particularly, I'm just not pleased with how some things are done and this is me expressing myself.

My day was awesome and nice, church was great. How'd your day go?

Thanks for reading, lemme know how you feel about this, I'd really like to hear from you.

Mhizutty the voice of truth 🎵🎶🎵