Some tips on how to overcome shyness.

Shyness is the feeling whenever I feel discomfort about what exactly happening around me. I feel uneasy, weary and I feel like I just wanna go home, or go to my room, or just bury myself in the core of the earth. I get that, sometimes, my jokes turn to be ---eeng out of the world. Sometimes no one can relate. And then I would feel the regrets and I would be over thinking. Over and over again. I shouldn't have said that. Do they think I am so stupid? And I lose all the capabilities to talk to all the people around me. And It will take days, or even weeks, for me to be able to got back on track again. Have you ever felt that?

It is true that words cut deeper, and I don't know where it started but, I want to tell you that, no its not like I didn't try to make it as a motivation, but it turned out differently. It was one summer afternoon I am sleeping soundly when I have received a call from my auntie, I was awoken by the call, grab the phone and answer my aunt, and I can only remember the words that she said, that I talked nonsense and she's never gonna call me again. And from that day it haunts me. To schools recitations, to talking to people, to sharing my ideas. Volunteerism becomes my enemy and shielding and armouring my self from another word that could make me or break me. And until now public speaking has been my greatest achilles hill. Have you ever been call out like that?

In todays society, you are forced to talked and meet people, specially in my line of field work, I get that a lot. Meeting different individuals, professions, and even the manpower I am handling. Though I am still unable to control my stammering and my excessive discomfort, I still managed to faced these people from face to face. And so far my introvert system and trauma has been slowly and shortly been decreasing. It might take too slow but at least I am making a step by step progress. I wish to become a public speaker someday. Well I can only wish.

Here are some tips I can recommend to you on how to at least improve yourself and away from being shy.

1. Meet different people aside from who knows you.

   YES. Omg how? When you are too shy to approach everyone. I have come to realized that I am rebuilding my ability to talked to people from those, who never knew who I was and what I am really. Meeting different people is actually socializing and what I always implant on my mind, "Girl, thos person doesn't know you its okay to make mistakes" and I feel a lot better. I can smile freely and it feels refreshing to to talk and know someone who does not know you. For example, greeting the cashier on your favorite canteen. Or smiling at the one whom you always meet on the road.

2. Keep it light and don't over think.

   I too the first time I tried to do it feel my heart beat fast like I am running away from k9 dogs. Nauseating a lot. But I want to encourage you to take the first step and slowly rebuilding the trust on your self. And always keep in mind that you are not shy you can do it.

3. Stop self proclaiming that you are shy

   Today I said I was shy not because I want to indulge it but to encourage other people to overcome it, let our mind speaks from within ourselves. One thing that I realized I have been resting it all in my mind, making it as an excuse for different things I should have done before and relying to others that I become so lazy. And it needs to improve in order for me to grow, to be able to speak my mind through others to provide a meaningful conversation, not only online but actually in person.

4. Avoid person that can possibly increase the tension of your shyness.

   I literally avoid people who love teasing so bad. So much. But some people really love to get sarcastic and don't try to think if their words are a bit cruel and hurtful. Just avoid and ignore them.

5. Always bear (not the market right now) in mind that it is not always a bad day! And though tomorrow can become as today, we always need to look forward for tomorrow for a positive and good day!

6. Know your strength and do practice it more often! And whenever you to that and does not fail, your confidence will slowly rebuild.

7. Know yourself more and list the things that you think and notice that triggers your shyness. Improve and do overcome them slowly, make it as one of your goal and have them crossed!

Conclusion

There are so many list on how to overcome shyness and mines just too short! And is solely based from my personal experiences that I wanted to share and how I am overcoming them! Hope you aren't as shy as me! Comment down below if you want to share some of your knowledge and add it up down there!

Hope you did get bored! Thanks for reading!