Relationships Rambles

Sometime yesterday, I was scrolling through my WhatsApp status when I came across a status post and it really got to me. I was like 'that's my article for today'. I'm not saying you should take it, as I'm not a relationship expert, I'm just saying the little I know.

Trust, Then Love

One of the first criteria for a relationship is love, at least that's what the movies make it look like and that's great too. But what most people call love,that feeling of euphoria, butterfly in my belly experience isn't something that will last forever. A relationship that's built on the promise of the perpetuation of that feeling will soon run into the ground. A good and healthy relationship is one that has both partner trusting it each other. For starters, you can truly love a person if you don't trust them. How so?

True love involves a conscious decision to commit to making another person happy all your life, because you trust they would be doing same for you all their life. A relationship without adequate amount of trust between the partners would soon start having issues. I'm not saying love without trust is a facade, although it is, but I'm saying as much as love is very important, trust takes an equal if not leading role up there.

Happiness In A Relationship

One of the reason we seek romantic relationships is to be happy. There's an established notion that our relationship should be a source of unending happiness. But what a lot of people don't know is that, happiness is,something you first develop within yourself. A relationship will not create one where there's none, but rather grow the one it finds in the person.

This is why you see some people who are in relationships with people you know to be nothing but angels still remain unhappy. You have to first learn to make yourself happy first and foremost. Make it easy to love you, don't be an insurmountable burden to a person you care about. Learn to make yourself happy first.

Priority

When you're in a relationship, it's only natural to want to be able to say you're his number one or her number one priority. You want them to treat you special and right at all times, you want them to flaunt you to their friends,you want them to show up on time for your date etc, and that's a good thing. Sometimes, it might seem like you're asking for too much from your partner, but you're not. There's totally nothing wrong in expecting your partner to turn up for you when you need them.

I know this from experience, because there was a time my partner could say she was suffering from same; me making her feel she was asking for the moon, when she was not. If a partner is making you feel that way, it's not your fault,don't blame yourself or try to make up excuses for them, it's not about you, it's about them. They are the ones who still do not understand what it means to be involved with a person. It's not you, always remember that.

Time Can Mean Nothing

When it comes things of the heart, time can mean very little. It's possible to have been with a relationship with someone for years, only to find a person whom you've known for less, mean well for you, more than the one you've been with for years. I'm not saying it's okay to be jumping from one partner to another, cause the next guy will always seem better and nicer than the one you're with. The lesson here is that, sometimes it can be clear as day what is. It's possible that you've been in an abusive relationship. That's a clear one.

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Conclusion

These statements, I would like to call it that, aren't expert relationship advice. They are more a thing that I drew from my introspection of a certain WhatsApp post as I stated earlier. Point is, if you take them too seriously at the detriment of your relationship, you're responsible😂😂

Thanks for your time....