Husband's Sentiments

My husband asked me yesterday, "do you have a topic to write for your article?", i replied, "wala nga akong maisip eh", he said, "isulat mo kwento ng buhay ko". So this is it.

He grew up in a family of seven, his parents and he has four siblings, all of them are boys, he is the oldest among them. He is a kind person, though he had a lot of sufferings and sacrifices, he loved his siblingsand he is so responsible for them. they had a not so good parents. Why should i say? His parents fight almost everyday, every second, avery minute, every hour, everyday of their lives, they always fight. they are both jealous guys. they always fight for nothing, they mouthed bad words, they yell with each other, they bang and slam the doors, they throw and drop things, how horrible they are! Since he was a kid, their parents are like that, there's no peace in thier home.

he had one story that he cannot forget, when he was in high school, his classmates werein thier house, his mother bid him to cook rice, he did, but when his mother saw that he did not clean the pot where there is a leftover rice, she shouted at him and mouthed him bad words in front of his classmates, he felt humiliated. Since then, he lost his confidence and he never go along with others. one time when he opened the door after he woke up, a neighbor told him, "yung nanay at tatay mo, nag-aaway na naman kagabi," he was embarassed and pitied himself. he thought, what kind of life is this? why my parents are like this?

When he was in high school, he never experienced having new bag, or shoes, or even uniform. Their parents never bought them those things, they just ask some to their cousins and neighbors, " yung pinaglumaan ng iba, yun nalang ang hinihingi at ginagamit namin ng mga kapatid ko". And because he wanted to have a pair of shoes, he saved some amount of money, ha made coals and he helped neighbors in making bamboo center table. he then bale to buy the shoes he always wanted, that KAYPEE shoes that was popular on 1990's. He was a Cadet Army Training (CAT) Officer, but his parents never bother to buy him a uniform so he just asked his cousin to borrow the CAT uniform, and take note, the cousin is a girl, so he used a girl's uniform, well, he had no choice but to use it.

That is why soon after he graduated high school, he decided to leave. He went to Laguna (they live in Rizal) and look for a job. He bacame a gasoline boy but he resigned after some time because the food his boss gave him was spoiled and he lived in a very small place that he cannot move freely.

He applied for another job. He was hired in a canned food factory, he had a reasonablesalary so he went to school and got a six month practical electrical course, he made it and got his diploma, he again got another six-month course and got his diploma for the second time, he let him self go to school on his own, he enver asked for his parent's help.

He had so many bitterness in life. He said he never experienced happy moments during is kid and teenage life, he never had happy moments with his parents, all he had is traumatic experiences. He don't want to see and hear poeple who fight because he had through a lot since then. Now that he have his own family, he don't want us to fught. he don't want to hear an argument. maybe this is the reason why he is very good to me and to our children. he love us a lot.

He once told me, "buti nga at hindi ako naging basagulero", i know i have to let him feel that he wasloved by me and our kids bacause he is longing for the love and care ofhis parents.