I remember when the time came between my husband and I that we almost didn't talk to each other. It was never easy to overcome this struggle between us. I've almost lose hope in fixing relationship things with him.
Before we got married, I knew that he always talks less than I do in any situation. I knew that he is kind of a timid person and I understand that because people do have different distinct personal qualities. One more thing is that when you love someone, you will be able to accept all about him/her without any doubt or hesitation.
As years are passing by, we've got to know more about ourselves or should I say...about each other's attitude. He is so kind, thoughtful and God-fearing husband. He always does what's good for our little family. It's just he is a silent type of person as always to the point that he doesn't tell me or forgets to tell me the things I need to hear from him like his plans, his day-to-day activities at work, how was his day went, even his routines when I'm not around. All of these are opposite of what I do when it comes to communication because I value having conversations with him especially if it's about our family future plans.
I enjoy having deep talks with him. But the talk would not be initiated if it's not me to start the conversation. I was always the one who brings up topics. I tell him all I did throughout my day, at work, with friends, and with our son. That's the routine every time we talk. Until I got sicked of doing such things over and over again. It's disgusting whenever I wait for him to talk to me but it ended up waiting for nothing.
He was even doing important things in his life without telling me that he is up to something good or bad.
Time came that I don't talk if it's not him to start the conversation. It happened day by day; ignoring each other. It's not easy for a wife who is always open for a talk with her husband. It hurts. It's a burden I can't carry in my entire life.
I can't tell him what I feel that time because I was so upset of what's happening in our relationship. I write instead. I write in my diary every now and then. My diary covered up my tears, my sadness. Until one day he found my diary while he was looking for something in the closet. Unknowingly, he read all the details of my grief since from the start. He never knew that I was in a depression.
Since then, everything changed. He asked for forgiveness. He made up the moments we suppose to talk or to bond. He was so sorry and realized that what he did was a mistake.
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Lessons:
"Communication is very important between couples."
"Lack of communication can destroy a relationship."
"Do not change your someone's attitude, let him change himself for you. There you can find true love."