Long Distance Relationship

Saturday - October 24, 2020

When did you experience the thrill again? When have you ever experienced not being able to sleep at night with extreme tremors?

Long years of being together do you feel any thrill? With so much lack of attention and time, every time you can be with him for at least an hour or two, you will have fun, after all, there is nothing left, especially with LDR, you can just ask yourself why your special person? Even though you are an LDR, he still makes that day feel special and he has not forgotten. Even if you are not with him to celebrate your ANNIVERSARY, you do not eat, talk and laugh together but the thrill is still there because somehow he still makes an effort.

October 22 is one of the most special days for the two of us because that is the day I answered him and that is also how we will celebrate our 9th anniversary. In a relationship like ours, it is very difficult because we are facing a big test away from each other or what we call Long Distance Relationship. With LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, you need long patience, a wide understanding of things, and of course always understanding him you also need to learn to endure, wait, and sometimes you also have to sacrifice, just prove how much you love him. And most of all, “trust in each other, we know it is difficult to give full trust, especially since he is far away, but we need to gamble on that. It's really hard to be away from the person you love, you can't take care of him, and no matter how much you want to be with and see him, it is not possible, because you are miles away from each other, months or years you still have to count to be with him. There are also times when you doubt his love for you when you suspect that he may have someone else, that is inevitable. You don't see what he does, but we can do nothing but trust, and believe what he says just to avoid fighting. Of course, it also includes the trials and tribulations that cause you to misunderstand and resent, but you are ready to fight it just to save your relationship because you know, in yourself that you can not afford to lose him in your life and even if you get hurt a few times, cry a few times, it's okay as long as you don't lose him. But even so, you are still happy, because you love, that even though he is far away from you, you can still feel your love for him in any way, and we learn to be content even just by calling, texting, and chatting we can only talk to them. We are happy, as long as you feel how much you love each other. There are often people who will tell you to "leave that alone, there are many others, they will be closer to you, and you will always be with them", but even if a few more people say no, it just doesn't matter, does it? because he is more important, and you do not know what other people are saying to you and the people who say no, those are the people who have never experienced love far away from them, so they will not understand why we will just love far away. But it's really like that because when you love, you can't choose the person you love, as long as you just feel it, that you can't explain why he is the one you love as long as you only know.

So, I'll try to make a list to help make the relationship happy even if you are far apart.

• NEVER LOSE COMMUNICATION. That should be constant because, when one of you suddenly loses connection, your partner will be left hanging. He doesn't even know what happened to you or what went wrong in your relationship and that's where a person starts to lose his appetite, if you don't make him feel better, your partner doesn't know where he is going if he still hopes he and he will wait for you, or will he just forget you and not expect you to come back?

• DO NOT DO WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO TO YOU. Simple, in everything you do, think of your partner he does not want you to do anymore.

• CAN YOU BE HAPPY? CAN YOU BE HURT? You always consider how he will feel.

• MAKE PLANS. It's good if you two have a plan because it serves as a BIND for you to have COMMON PLANS / GOALS TO ACHIEVE.

• MOVIE DATES. We do this even if it's not the real movie date who goes to the cinema, buys popcorn and soda, then watches together, it can also do this even if you are far apart. We do what we do, we set a date, we choose a movie, then we talk on skype and then we play the movie together so that we can watch together.

• VIRTUAL CARDS / FLOWERS. Because you are far from him, but you can send anything, ask for help from people close to him. Those are big things for him after all, no matter how small things are, as long as they come from the one you love, it matters.

• MAKE SOMETHING SPECIAL ONCE IN A WHILE. You can't even send it to him via mail, (because it's so expensive) it's okay with him, take a picture then show him to make sure he appreciates it (for example, last week, I made a poster of the picture of the two of us and then I put it in my room I painted and I sent him. He was happy.

• DO NOT BE ASHAMED TO SHOW EVERYONE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM. Leave wall posts on his FB, comment on I love you. You should not be ashamed of others no matter how you feel about him. Will you wait for someone else to feel love for you than for you? It's okay, anyone else who sees it should appreciate it.

• DO NOT BE VERY PARANOID. If you don't have to think about it, don't worry too much, sometimes you should also know how to control your doubts about him, especially if you have any doubts, you can just calm down.

• SURPRISE HIM ON HIS SPECIAL DAY. This thrills the people you love because they feel about l more the effort you give them. As my boyfriend did, I thought he forgot our Anniversary. Because he didn't even have a clue, of course at first he was sad and mixed with anger because he didn't even greet or reply to my chat but it was part of his plan to surprise me with pride. He talked to my brothers and sisters to help me so that his surprise to me was a success that I am still thrilled with.

Always Trust your relationship and the plan of GOD!!