"Is promise meant to be broken?"

July 19, 2022

Making a promise has never been a problem; in fact, we like to make promises because there are so many things we want to get done. The problem, however, is in actually keeping the promise. This is frequently not because we forget; rather, it is because our hands are tied. It is not because we no longer want to keep the promise; rather, it is because there is little or nothing we can do at the time. There are countless ways we can promise things based on our expectations and optimistic views of the future, but even though we believe we can control whether or not those promises are kept, this is not the case. Try your best, however, and be as honest as you can.

As emotional beings, it's normal for us to feel sad when we make promises but genuinely can't keep them. It's even sadder when you're the one who was promised but has been completely let down. Nevertheless, it's crucial that we harbor no resentments, that we understand how things can be at times, that we are sympathetic to the circumstances of things, and that we judge fairly. However, I suppose first we'll need to determine if the promise was actually made.

I have a lot of respect for those with calm, flexible minds who don't add to the tension already present. I assume we frequently don't think this way until the individual fully discloses his or her personal lives before we realize that the person unable to keep a commitment made is most likely lacking the resources to devote to his or her personal requirements. When you dig further, you'll see that the disappointment is what turns people against you, not the fact that he or she is stingy or that they even become used to it. If not understood, disappointment can turn into rage and even hatred.

No matter how sincere and confident a person sounds, a promise is only a favor and, because no one can predict the future, everyone is most likely subject to probability. This helps to lessen the strength of dependence and potential disappointment and is another reason why some people find it easier to wave while others find it difficult to let go. A mature mind recognizes that things can already be difficult for the friend who made the promise, so rather than acting with entitlement, she offers words of encouragement.

All I can say is that the Lord has all the power because he alone can predict the future and speak confidently. It makes sense then that people have learned to add a qualifier to their promises, such as "by God's grace," "if God permits," "God willing," and similar expressions. Because they made it clear from the start that I can actually do little and that the main determining factor is in the higher power above, you can't hold them responsible in this way. If I don't fulfill my end of the bargain, just know that it's all God willing and chill.

One can object and say, "But it's my money, I can chose to do with it as I so like. That's right, but not when a promise is involved." However, it is awful when it is within your ability to fulfill a promise but you don't. Probably necessary to comprehend the influence of expectation In order to avoid setting someone up for disappointment, it can be preferable to have good intentions but keep them a secret until you are ready to act. I am aware that some people claim to be able to calm down a tense or urgent situation, but that doesn't change the fact that an expectation has already been set.

People build their hope on expectations. There are people who are happy and can breathe normally now because of something they are expecting. This something could be their son graduating from school, financial assistance, faith in your competence as a doctor or repairman, or work support, but now that someone's mind and heart have become so consumed by it, you're slowly turning into the only hope left. This will be dangerous when you reach that point. Therefore, if you can keep your word, make sure you do since you never know who might be relying on it.

Because people are so finite and there are so many variables that might influence our choices, it would be better for everyone if we could learn to lower our expectations of them. When someone says, "There is nothing you can't do when you set your mind to it, thus he didn't fulfill that commitment because he didn't take it seriously," don't be deceived; this statement is frequently untrue, which is why it's important to know the real reason. What can you do when the government, illness, bosses, monetary inflow, or even the emergence of a more urgent need, can easily influence your decision? So lower your expectations of people and put more faith in God, who is infallible.

Jht