"Sometimes a mistake can be all it takes to make a valuable achievement." — Henry Ford

We all make mistakes. We know that to err is human, that we learn from mistakes, that they are necessary to evolve, and yet we are afraid to make mistakes and admit them.

Why do we make mistakes?

First of all, we do not have all the necessary information when we make a decision, so we are forced to make decisions based on incomplete information. For example, we receive a new job offer. Although it seems convenient to us, we don't know all the details, we have no way of knowing them because we don't work there yet, but we still make a decision. Only time can tell if she was good or not. We cannot know what the future will bring us until we experience it.

Secondly, some decisions are based on the emotions of the moment. For example, when we are impatient to buy a clothing item at a discount and we buy it from the first store. Only after we have seen the offers of the other stores can we realize whether we have acted correctly or not. Sometimes emotions are not the best guide, but we cannot live without them.

Thirdly, there are situations where you have to choose between two undesirable alternatives. No matter how bad the choice you made turned out to be, you cannot know that the other option would have been more appropriate.

A mistake is not the end of the world

Some of us treat every mistake like the end of the world. I have heard many times: "I can't stand making mistakes.", "Should I do this or not? ", "If there will be a mistake, how will I get over it?", "How do I know I'm not making a mistake?". Mistakes are normal, they are part of life. If you're active and doing something, there's a good chance you'll make a mistake. Only those who do nothing, make no mistakes. If you live your life, work, relate to those around you, you can always make mistakes, but that doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Learn from your own mistakes, from those of others and move on.

You don't have to regret mistakes

One reason why it's hard for us to make decisions is because we feel like we have to regret mistakes "I know I'll regret it if I choose/do something". There's no point in regretting a mistake, admit it wasn't the best decision and move on. Give yourself a maximum time in which you allow yourself to regret the mistake, then tell yourself: "I made a mistake. I regretted it enough and I want to move on. I want to focus on the positive things ahead."

Sometimes it's sadder to regret that you didn't make any mistakes, that you didn't experiment, that you didn't take risks, that you didn't dare to live your life to the fullest and all because you were afraid to make mistakes .

We have organized our lives around the idea that mistakes are negative and that we must avoid them. You consider them to be the "uninvited guest" who disturbs your peace, and because of this you are always ready to defend yourself, fearing that they will come rushing to the door. But what if you yourself opened the door, invited him in and were willing to learn from everything that happens to you, like in Jellaludin Rumi's poem - The Guest House?

"This human being is a guest house.

every morning, a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a lowness,

a passing awareness comes

like an unexpected visitor.

Be thankful for whoever comes,

for every one was sent

as a guide from beyond."