"I Wish I Never Had a Family"

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Two nights ago I heard an angry voice say: “I wish I never had a family”. The next morning I realized it was one of the teenagers in the neighborhood, there was a little conflict at home. He left home after that statement and the parents were worried the next day. Though, he returned at the end of the day filled with apologies for his parents. I guess someone talked some sense into his teenage skull.

"All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

He might have said that out of anger, but come to think of it, this means he regrets been born. The reality is if he didn’t have a family he wouldn’t be who he is today.

It is true that the people that are closest to us can hurt us the most.

"My mother used to tell me that when push comes to shove, you always know who to turn to. That being a family isn't a social construct but an instinct."

By default, we trust people in our household explicitly. When someone says they are “family” we open the door to our hearts, our most precious and valued possession. We give our love, time, and other resources to them.

Unfortunately, the family can be the source of the most pain one can ever endure in life. A type of pain that could make you physically, emotionally, and mentally ill. It robs you of all joy and peace. It can be literally draining.

Family whether it’s the one we are born into or the one that chose us or the one we chose it’s so important to preserve your emotion and mental health in all situations. We can’t wish our families away but we can do things to preserve our peace of mind in times of conflict and challenges.

"So much of what is best in us is bound up in our love of family, that it remains the measure of our stability because it measures our sense of loyalty."

Every good parent strives to make decisions in the best interest of the child. No parent is perfect and none will let you do anything you want. They may be strict doesn’t mean they don’t love you or care about you.

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Very nice article. Having a family is great but can be draining at times

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Some family can be frustrating but we also endeavour to tolerate one another and fight hard to maintain the relationship

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Yh true

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Family is a gathering of people of ur own taste ...but if not happens then family become hard

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4 years ago

The family is the first relation in our life.

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Just keep on praying. and be strong

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like you said maybe he made the statement out of anger...family is very essential, it is the first stage of socialisation one passes through before meeting those at the outside world, so if one wishes something like that then he wished he never had an existence and that is not something good to wish

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Family can be loving and frustrating at times. But I believe in all, they are worth fighting for.

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4 years ago

absolutely correct

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Needed your support

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Did you need my support?

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Family is Important

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I agree. It's an important aspect of one's life. they can make or break you.

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As much as some people love the family they fall into, we don't have the opportunity to choose where we belong.

Some families are the source of the pains their children go through. It's not easy for children who fall into such family. I'm an example

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Family can bring an array of complex emotions. Depending on your childhood and current family situation, these feelings could be mostly positive, mostly negative, or an equal mix of both.

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Mine was total negative, but I'm strong and now they want me back, because they heard positive things about me

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You shouldn't be surprised, success brings attention. And what did you do?

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I did nothing, I was just an unwanted pregnancy from their secondary school days.

Maybe my mother transferred the hatred of my father (that I don't know) to me

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Well, dear Vickie. I am glad you turned out great... Without them. Wish you a great future. I hope you turn out a better parent than they were.

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Amen and I wish to know that my father someday, at least so I can say thank you for abandoning me all my life

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There are plenty of teenagers or adults saying this and they mean it. Without a family you can at least pretend they were great people. There's nothing great about my family. They molest, rape, abuse, manipulate, steal and kill. I left them a long time ago and that's the only good thing that happened to me, something I did for me. Am I grateful to be alive? No I am not.

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families struggle from time to time, but members still feel loved, supported, and respected. I'm sorry yours was at the negative extreme. I'm glad you took the bold step and left. You have been able to preserve your emotional and mental health. But many find it hard to leave their families and end up getting entangled in the family violence.

I have a different tale. My family is loving, caring, and all. I have never walked in on my parents quarreling or fighting. My father was the gentlest of men. May God rest his peace. I hope to be a better husband and father to my own immediate family.

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It is good still great families do exist although the majority I know (schoolmates included) do not belong to that part unless the family is raised by a single parent. If your father was the gentlest there's no need for you to be better. All the best for you.

If it comes to me... The question is what is emotional and mental health?

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Emotional health is a person's ability to accept and manage feelings through challenge and change. while mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices.

One of the factors that contribute to mental health problems is life experiences, such as trauma or abuse.

According to helpguide

Your mental health influences how you think, feel and behave in daily life. It also affects your ability to cope with stress, overcome challenges, build relationships, and recover from life’s setbacks and hardships. Strong mental health isn’t just the absence of mental health problems. Being mentally or emotionally healthy is much more than being free of depression, anxiety, or other psychological issues. Rather than the absence of mental illness, mental health refers to the presence of positive characteristics.

This me relate to you or not. But I have a friend that hates men, because of how violent her father was. She seldom relates to the male folks. Since I have known her, she has never lasted in a romantic relationship... Her childhood experience affected her perception of men. He thinks every man is like her father.

There are stories of how violent childhood experience has affected people mentally and emotionally.

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4 years ago

the family is the most beautiful s gift of god. it should be appreciated, at least sometimes my conflict do not let hurtful things be said. because words are more painful than deeds. it should be considered first before saying especially if it will come from your family. Nice article

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I agree. Family is one of God's greatest gifts to mankind. Family as our first form of relationship is a significant part of who we are to the core because our past is an integral part of how we view ourselves and the world.

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