Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task. Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving a lot of trouble and instability. You have to stop something that is wrong. Here are a few ways that can help you to stop cheating and stay faithful to your partner.
Have you ever found yourself, thinking about being romantic with someone else besides your partner? Perhaps, you've already imagined yourself kissing a colleague once, going out on a date with a beautiful friend, or worst, fantasizing about having sex with other people. If you are currently in a relationship and you are doing this, you are bound for some trouble.
Fantasizing about others is the first step towards infidelity, so you have to stop. Some would probably reason that having a fantasy would not hurt, as long as you are not going to make it real. That's true, but how sure are you, that you can keep yourself away from temptation?
This is the same with what women always accuse their partners, of whenever they catch men checking another woman out, "you're already undressing her in your mind."
It is okay to have a crush on someone else, which is normal. But keep it casual, you're only attracted to another person because she or he is good-looking, that's all. Always remind yourself that you belong only to your partner, and your connection with them is deeper than just good looks.
If you are cheating on your partner, what will trouble you is your guilt and conscience. If you are feeling this way, then it is not yet too late for you to stop. Do not try to fight off your guilty feelings, let them prevail.
Whenever you are tempted to do an act of infidelity, always imagine your partner being aware of it. If you find yourself wanting to go out with your other man or woman, tell yourself that your partner will be just around watching you. If you are on a phone call, imagine that she or he's on the other line, listening to your conversation. If you are chatting, tell yourself that your partner knows your entire social networking site's passwords. This will, you will be at least a little hesitant to cheat on him or her.
Cheating will never bring good results to neither of you in the end, so how hard would it be for you to resist this sinful act?
Physical contact,should be reserved only for your partner, so you might want to back off a little when it comes to hugs, a lot of hand-holding,massaging, and over-the-line gestures with others. It doesn't matter whether it is just a friendly gesture for you, or not, others might take it as something else, tempting you to cheat.
It's okay to hug sometimes for support, or have someone gently giving you a pat on the back. But if you think that you are already getting touchier with other males or females, than your lover, it's time to stop.
Speaking of self-deception, Adulterers often fool themselves into thinking that this time, will ve the only time or the last time. This could be true of course, although unlikely, in any case, it is a way to rationalize and justify a "one time" dalliance. If you feel tempted, and want to avoid doing something you'll regret, keep in mind the long-term consequences of cheating, including the harm it will do to your partner, and your relationship to any children you have, or any whom may result from your adulterous liaisons, as well as to your image to yourself.
Also, consider that if you give in to temptation this time, you are more likely to give in the next time. And before you know it, you've established a pattern. But if you anticipate the pattern from the beginning, and realize how bad the consequences of it will be, you'll be more likley to stop it before it starts.
Cheating is hard work. It will syress you out a lot, and it's not even worth it. Along with the stress, your chances of ruining your image and reputation, are close to a hundred percent. Whatever you do, it won't end in your favor. Don't ever cheat, try to talk to your partner if you are begiining to feel uncomfortable with your relationship. Be transparent to him or her because if you do so, it will be easier for you to resist this sinful temptation.
Avoid constant messaging and phone calls.
Remember you have a partner who loves you.
Avoid thinking about what it could be, and what you do not have.
Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end.
Remember it is not over until it is over.
Talk to your husband or wife about what you expect from your relationship.
Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating. Just do it.
Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out.
Concentrate on making your present relationship better.
Meet long-lost friends or new ones, along with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Count your blessing and you will see that life has treated you well.
Avoid criticizing and comparing your partner.
Avoid comparing your situation with the movies. You are for real.
Show respect towards your partner's trust and emotions.
Spend more time with your partner. Do special things.
Avoid being negative about your relationship or married life.
Share with your partner if you are not happy about something.
What's the best way to stop cheating from destroying your relationship?
The best first step you can take to protecting your relationship from infidelity is to have a frank and honest talk with your partner, about your definitions of infidelity. Nail down exactly what both you and your partner consider cheating. You both have to agree on what kind of behavior is cheating. That way, you both know the boundaries of the relationship, so you don't inadvertently hurt your partner or vice versa.
That, plus having open, honest lines of communication in your relationship, are the two best ways to prevent infidelity. When you can honestly talk about what you're dissatisfied with, as well as agree on which behaviors are acceptable, and which are not. You're much less likely to experience infidelity in any way in your relationship.
Here's how to build healthy loving relationships that really last forever.
Be trustworthy
Trust is a key characteristic of a positive relationship. When asked about relationships, people identified trustworthiness as one of the most valued traits. Being trustworthy means being dependable, reliable, and honest. Most of us value relationships that are based on trust, where people are honest but also thoughtful.
Take it slow.
Early relationships are heavy and filled with emotions while a lot of this is difficult or impossible to control. You can mitigate your feelings by intentionally slowing down. Don't be too available. Make plans with other important people in your life and resist the urge to cancel them. Don't be too quick to become exclusive, continuing to play the field helps you balance your emotions and make a more clear-headed decision.
Live in the moment.
If you are actively seeking a relationship, you might find yourself picturing a home and kids on the first date. Force yourself back into the present. On each date, focus on having a good time and deciding whether you would like another date. Don't try to transform yourself or your date into something unnatural. Take each moment as it comes and enjoy the process. Perhaps someone isn't destined to be the love of your life but will turn out to be a very significant friend. Maybe this person even knows someone who would be perfect for you.
See the best in your partner and the relationship.
Research on perception and attention shows that we see more of what we look for. So if you are looking for signs of kindness that's more likely to stand out to you. How you think about and interpret your partner's actions and mentions and words also affects how you feel and understand a situation with them which in turn, affects how you behave toward them.
Show your appreciation.
A sense of gratitude and appreciation has been found to be a motivating factor in couple relationships. In the sense that when a person feels appreciated for who they are and what they do, it motivates them to do positive things for their partner as well. Most people would like to be appreciated a little more often for their efforts. Appreciations can be demonstrated in a number of ways, depending on the circumstance and relationship. The simple verbal acknowledgment of "thank you" goes a long way toward a person feeling valued.
Thank you for reading. This is based on me being in a relationship for 20 years and still counting!
Those are good for thoughts as always tita. I didn't personally experienced it but many of my friends told me of their experience with the opposite gender. I even have girl friends who does it and all I could do was lightly call her off. But I'll keep in mind those tips :))
Cheating is very dangerous and tempting that is why we need to developer more intimate.relationship with our spouse so that we cannot think of doing something like cheating.
Those are good for thoughts as always tita. I didn't personally experienced it but many of my friends told me of their experience with the opposite gender. I even have girl friends who does it and all I could do was lightly call her off. But I'll keep in mind those tips :))