Do you hear the words, "You are doing good," often? If not then hello to us who live in bitterness and pain. 😅 😆

I'm sure you'll agree that we don't always hear these words, right? Most people never give out praises when you're doing a good job. It's the truth. There may be some who do so genuinely but others are just envious and not even really happy for you when they say it.

What is the point of this article then? Well, in order to avoid confusion, let me give two points (and a bonus) on what I mean by we're all doing good.

👉 Point number 1

Think about it, nobody will tell you you're doing a good job when you suck at whatever you're doing. In case we're really terrible at something, for sure we are good at other things. If we do get praised even if we suck then we will never think of improving our personality or skills. That's so much worse. Haha.

Meanwhile if we keep hearing negative things and insults about how we live our life or do work then we'd eventually think we are never good at anything. Sad huh?

Constructive criticism is better than insults or telling others how stupid they are. Some people like to give tough love but never know how to even praise someone when the occasion arrives. That's the harsh reality. That's something that also needs to end if it's still prevalent.

Now if I say "You're doing good," when you actually suck, it means don't lose hope. Life is not always full of problems and sadness. We just need to refocus our minds. Easier said than done but it really takes time to change especially after being verbally abused since forever.

👉 Point number 2

So, I'd like to share another part of what I wrote back in 2018: Despite the wrong things we think we always do, we are doing good.

Ok wait, lower your eyebrows. Haha. Don't take it too literally like saying when one consciously and deliberately cheats, lies, steals or kills someone they are still good. Big NO, it's not like that.

This is not for the criminals (and their supporters) and people who do not know how to listen or ask for help.

Let me explain:

If you are doing your best but you keep failing, that's fine. The road to success is paved with failure. You're doing good despite consistently failing. We must learn to be better people when we fail and experience pain or hardships. (There are many ways to have success and various interpretation of what it means to be successful.)

Whether we lose in a contest, fail to meet the deadline or simply get late to a meeting or event, it can make us feel terrible. This can hurt our self esteem but despite that, in the end we should realize the experience is good for us. Thus, we are still doing okay.

Look at it this way:

Perhaps bad things happen as a sign to mean we should be doing other things in a different place or career. There are many opportunities out there, if we can't find it, we can also probably make it.

Yes, nothing in this world is easy but it's best to learn from all the bad behavior we have (in the beginning) that produce negative experiences so we can make improvements and become better people. Nobody is perfect but we should practice everyday to improve who we currently are.

You may suck now but you will get better after sucking so bad. We cannot be the victims in every story all the time. There are times we are heroes too. Do not stay a victim forever or else you will never become the hero of your own story.

If you don't get better at doing anything then you can always ask for help. What's the worst that can happen when you're already down and negative? The only way left is to go up.

We all need to learn from our mistakes and make ourselves better. Don't listen to people bringing you down further when we make mistakes. It happens. Life sucks. So what are you gonna do about it? Don't stay down there and cry forever.

If we aren't able to do something well, perhaps there is a reason. We have to ask ourselves why, why, why? And then we find ways and work on improving our minds and bodies. We must be willing to honestly evaluate ourself, change and look for people who can help us otherwise nothing will improve in our life.

And so if you are thinking negatively and always beating yourself up, this message is for you too. 😊 It's not easy to change ourself especially when we are already adults but if we need to do it we can do it for sure.

Do you have other ways to improve your life and mindset? Feel free to share in the comments. 😉

👉 Point to consider

On the other hand, of course there are stubborn individuals too. There are people who will never hear or understand what others tell them. How can these men and women live a better life, right?

Again, this article is NOT for those who choose to be or support (1) criminals and (2) people who do not know how to listen or ask for help.

The real problem is, there are people who prefer to live terrible lives. They would rather be the bad guys and hurt others instead of being the one hurting inside. 💔

Aside from that, there are those who keep focusing on their mistakes or the terrible situation/event that happened in their life. That's sad but it's true.

(Yes, people with these two mindsets exist. I even used to be the latter one.)

Some people never get to rise and improve from any great tragedy they experience. Having a victim mentality is sad. It's much sadder when you add entitlement in the mix.

It's heartbreaking to see someone continually suffer despite whatever you say or do. How tragic to see a person you know who doesn't even try to live a good life anymore. It's pathetic but even if you help them they choose to continue living "in hell."

Whatever anyone says if someone doesn't want to change and improve themselves, what use are our words? In the end it is always up to us what we do with our life.

Imho, it's better to listen to encouraging words and work to make our life more amazing than ever instead of just doing nothing and being miserable everyday and blaming others for it.

XOXO,

@LucyStephanie

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