Do you know what bullying is? Have you ever experience to be bullied? If yes, what did you do to stop them from bullying you? If no, lucky you, you didn't experience the fear, hopelessness, low self confidence, humiliations and sadness.
Bully
a blustering, mean, or predatory person who, from a perceived position of relative power, intimidates, abuses, harasses, or coerces people, especially those considered unlikely to defend themselves. Source
Bullying
the behavior of a person who hurts or frightens someone smaller or less powerful, often forcing that person to do something they do not want to do. Source
Most of us experience being bullied whether it is a form of non-verbal o verbal.
It happens everywhere:
School - this is the problem of many schools. There are students who uses their strength, power and connection to bully other students. The one whom they bullied are people who their think dont fight them back and look weak. Here are some of the bad deeds of bullying that happened to school:
Bullies bully other student through their looks or appearance. When you look like a genius such as wearing glasses and bringing lot of books they will let you do their schoolworks, tease your appearance and copied your answers.
They will get your food and even money.
They will hurt you physically and emotionally
They will point out all your imperfections
Workplace - it a is verbal, physical, social or psychological abuse by your employer (or manager), another person or group of people at work. source
Sometimes the cause of it is envy of a person to their workmates who excel and achieve more than what they achieve. They will going to attack you until you can't make it and quit. This is the toxic mindset of some filipinos. (crab mentality)
Crab mentality - involves pulling down anyone who achieves or is about to achieve success greater than yours. Source
Social media - it happen also in online platforms especially on facebook. When i was active back then in facebook i must say that lots of toxic people are found there. The keyboard warriors and also the bullies. This is called cyber-bullying. It is when a person attack you through social media such as posting your stolen pic without you knowing it, commenting negative to your post /pic and sending intimidating or threatening messages to you.
Family - sad but its true that there are sometimes bullying that happens inside our home. Some families are not perfect. Sibling bullying for example, it is normal for the siblings to fight sometimes but when it siblings fight or disagreement becomes abusive thats considered as bullying. And when your relatives belittle you for whatever reason thats bullying.
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I also experienced being bullied by my classmates back when i was in elementary. They used to tease my appearance, as you see in my picture i have a mole in my face, that is my insecurity people used to tease me because of this. They called me lot of names. I don't have lot of friends as i am introvert that time. I remember one of my classmate always make me to do his assignments and if i don't follow him he will going to make actions like he will throw my bag outside or get my stuffs and will tease me. Also i experience being left alone inside our classroom because i haven't finish yet to write our lesson that day that is because i wrote to different notebook which is not mine.
In that school, i have experience a lot of bullying not physically but emotionally. I felt that im not belong to our class. When they dont need me im invisible to them which is i like atleast they dont bother me. I didn't do anything, i do not report it to our teacher and principal also to my parents back then. I bear it alone.
When theres a new school near my house, i decided to transfer so happy that my parents agree to me. There i started my highschool life. First, im scared thinking if i will experience again what ive experience back in my previous school but as time goes by i learn to make friends and too glad the people i met there is not a bully. I learn to gain my confidence and create a big circle of friends. Im very happy because i will able to go out of my comfort zone and leave being an introvert. I excel also in my studies i became an honor students. I found my true friends there and until now even if we are in different departments we managed to make time just to hang out.
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End thoughts:
Bullying can give different effects to people such as giving them a trauma, low self confidence, fear and anxiety. It brings no good to anyone. People should avoid doing it. Having power and privilege to live a wealthy life or having a pretty face doesn't allow us to make others bully instead we should use it in helping others.
And to those who bullied me i would like to say thankyou because of you, i became strong and i have found true people that will not going to bully me.
Thankyou for reading guys :) just feel free to express your thoughts about this topic of mine just leave a comment down there :) ⬇️
-Loveleng
Hi! Thanks for your article. I myself have been bullied in high school. But like you, I was able to overcome it when I was in college. Thankfully, it didnt affect me much. But it made me a strong person. ☺️☺️☺️