Both parents has the same authority over their children. Nowadays, most couples work together to provide for their family needs. They either have business together or they both have their own jobs. In this case, children are often left in other people's care just like the grandparents or the nannies. Both has pros and cons.
Both parents working. All the family needs are divided into two. The finances are equally divided by the parents. If ever they focus on their business, it's an easier task because both of them are managing the business. But their time for their children might not be enough. A child who grew up in the care if other people then suddenly has to stay with his parents might have a different impact to the child.
The way of discipline of others is different from the way of discipline implemented by the parents. The best thing to do is to have proper time management in order to give time to both the child and job.
If you're working for your child's future, you have to think of his present as well. If you're way too focused on your job for wanting to provide him everything that he need and even the things he wants, you might not notice that your relationship with your child is slowly drifting away.
It might have caused an invisible barrier between you and your child. You might just wake up one day asking what has gone so wrong for you to end up in a broken relationship with your kids.
Personal Experience:
My fourth sibling (3rd brother) got married last September 2019. He and his wife now has a 7 month old baby boy. They are both working on the BPO company and takes care of their baby. His wife is working on graveyard shift while my brother works in morning shift.
My mother has been telling them to leave their son in our home so they can focus in their jobs but they are both decided to be the one to take care of their son even if they are losing sleep. They are fine with it as long as they have their son with them.
If ever they have to go back in their office to work that's the time they'll allow us to take care of their son.
Both of them solicit the opinion of each other and decide on a mutual understanding.
One parent working. The generation today is way too different from the generation before. Before, you can buy food with just little money you have but now, everything has been costly.
When it's either the mother or the father is working, at least one of the parents are left home in order to take care of the kids. Parenting is a job with no concrete guidelines as to what is good and what is bad for the children. No matter how many books about parenting you have read, the critical point is applying it in real life. Reading is easy but applying it is a difficult task to do.
When the mother or father is working, he or she has to financially provide for the family. On the other hand, the housewife or househusband had to take care if the kids and do the household chores without getting paid. If ever you want to relax, you'll have to ask for money and if ever you're out to enjoy, you constantly think of your kids.
It's not a sin to want to enjoy from time to time. Each person has to unwind and relax to detoxify himself from stressful things.
Personal Experience:
I grew up with my mom working for the family and my father taking care of me and my siblings. Until now, even if my other siblings has their jobs, my mom is still working.
We have been constantly telling her to quit her job and stay at home because she's not getting younger but she always refuse to do so. My mother is a street sweeper. Her job is difficult and she has lots of physical pain. She often tells us to choose a partner who is also working because it's too difficult to work and take care of the family all at once.
Since I was young, I've never seen my father work or do houseworks except for cooking rice and heating water. He was asthmatic and he had to nebulize twice a day.
Since then, I've been telling myself that I will never depend on a man for all my needs. I look up to my mom because she isn't just a strong brave person but a woman of love. She inspires me to depend on myself. She is a wonderful woman who has a job and does the household chores. She takes care of her husband, children and grandchildren. She is always more than what others see form her.
Single parent. I salute all the single parents out there for not giving up and choosing to take on the responsibility of taking care of your kids and working at least two jobs to put food on the table.
A single parent has to take care of the kids and provide financially. They needed at least two jobs or one job with a high paying salary. They have to be there for their kids because their kids has no one else to turn to aside from them. They can't slack off even for a day because if they did, their kids will suffer the consequences of it.
If ever they decided to work overseas, they'll have to leave their kids behind. Even if it's killing them to leave, they'll have to do it to ensure a better future for them. They have to fill both roles of mother and father. They have to provide and do household chores. They have to stay sane even if they felt like going crazy for too much pressure. They have to stay strong even if they felt like giving up for all the problems they face.
Personal Experience:
I have a single parent churchmate who was cheated on by her long time partner just last year. She has two kids. Her oldest son is autistic while her youngest son has behavioral problems. She has to provide for her youngest son's studies and provide for their meal.
She put up a small business and decided not to depend on her sons father. She has been a strong woman who cried a lot but never given up on her family. I've seen her never losing patience to her kids and she never lose hope that one day everything she has experienced will eventually pay off.
Conclusion:
One must be firm, tough, sober and strong in order to decide. There might have been many factors to consider but once a decision is made it's not as though you can take it back.
So you better decide wisely.
Love_16
January 12, 2020
Tuesday
