Children can't always have their way in everything. Children must understand that there are certain things they have to do, certain rules to follow and certain people to obey. Discipline must be instilled to a child as early as possible. It helps in developing the child in obedience to his parents.
Discipline is implemented by both parent. It's a task by a mother and a father to discipline their children. The house rules and shared responsibilities are sincerely talked by parents and the benefactor for it are their children.
If we will look at parenting skills of each parent they have their own differences and their own unique way of implementing rules. There's diversity in teaching the children and training them for the future. Everything done at home are just a glimpse of the real world. It's important that when a house rule is implemented, the children must be able to understand that it benefits the parents and the children. It must always go both ways.
Curfew.
Setting a time limit for children is a good thing. It's a form of protection to them from all harm and danger. The world is getting worst and worst each day. No one knows when danger will come upon the kids.
This is one of the most hated things of teenagers for they often think that it's uncool, it's way out of bounds, it's suffocating, it's just for kids and so on.
Most families has this rule so their kids will learn to limit themselves from staying out too late.
Personal Experience:
At the age of 23, I still have a curfew. When I was younger, I always thought it was unfair or it was suffocating to have a limit as to how long I can stay outside.
I am not a perfect daughter I have broken my parents trust by staying too late outside but as I grew older I was able to realize how blessed I am to have parents who truly cares for my well being. I am introvert, so I stay home most of the times so whenever I have the chance to stay outside, I make the most out of it because I don't go out often. It angers me to hear my father telling me to go home early even if I am just about to leave the house.
It's to protect me from the dangers outside. You see a girl who has no one with her late at night is prone to high risk of being preyed upon.
When implementing curfew you can consider the following.
Age. Danger doesn't choose an age but age determines whether a person must learn how to be independent. It's not just about having the capacity to provide his own needs. It's about knowing what to do in certain situations. If a child is old and matured enough, you can be sure that he is responsible enough to handle himself when he is with other people.
Students. As of now since there is pandemic, people must stay at home. Not just those who have a job but most importantly the students. Regardless of the level of the child in his learning, a student is still under the authority of his parents. Students must know that they must be obedient to their parents because it's all for their own good.
Young professionals. When your child starts working, there are certain things which you cannot do as their parents. You can no longer pamper them or act as though they are still your babies. Well, technically they are still your precious sons and daughters but this is the perfect time for them to build themselves up without much dependence to their parents. They must know their limit whenever they go out with their colleagues or friends.
Personal Experience:
In our family, if you don't want to be under the house rules of my parents, the best thing to do is to move out and live on your own. Parents will always be parents. They will always look after their kids no matter what age they are.
If I want to do things my way, I need to live by myself. This way my parents won't have to constantly worry about me and I won't have to constantly get annoyed with them by giving me curfew.
Benefits of curfew.
Curfew eases the anxiety of the parents waiting for their kids to come home. Especially if their child is a girl.
Curfew protects the children from the dangers that lurk at night. No one knows when danger will come at us.
Curfew is a form of discipline to kids. It disciplines them to know when is the right time to come home and why do they have to be home at such a specific time.
Curfew helps in breaking wrong relationships. Children will always need the help and support of their parents in many things. One of those things is knowing the type of people they must surround themselves with.
Curfew exposes the whereabout of your kids. A parent can't monitor his child 24/7 but they can do it by setting a certain time for their kids to follow. This way you become more aware of where they go, what do they do and who they hang out with. It's one of the ways in ensuring the safety of the kids.
Personal Experience:
My curfew made people to sneer with me because they thought that I was just trying to give an excuse or that I was such a baby. I don't have to explain it to them which also makes me know that there are people who try to do anything to lure you into doing the same things they do.
I will just smile at them and leave politely. It's not because I fear my parents, it's because I also worry about them. My father can't sleep not unless all of us siblings are already at home.
He checks on us at dawn to see if we're really sleeping or we're still using our gadgets. Parents will always be parents of their children. No matter how much their children aged or how far his children has gone successful.
Negative effects of curfew.
If not explained well, curfew can lead your kids to rebel against you. It's always important not to leave the kids in the dark by explaining to them why they need to follow your curfew.
If the time of curfew is unreasonable, it can make your kids ask a lot of questions and if you can't answer it well, they will make their own answers for it.
If your child is into people whom she must not trust, she will never know that they influence her badly. You have to give her the concrete reason as to why she must stay away from those type of people. It's crucial not to leave the important details from your kids so that your kids will comply to your set rule.
Personal Experience:
Many people has told me that I should rebel to my parents so that I can do what I want. To be honest, I have also thought about it because I thought that this way, I can finally be free.
But with the diligent explanation of my parents as to why I must follow my curfew, I never rebelled to them about it. It opened my eyes in their perspective that they are my parents and they always want to keep me safe especially now that there are no safe places outside.
It's easier for me to obey because I know the reason why my parents implement curfew in the first place.
The best time for curfew is 9:00 p.m. whether it's your son or your daughter. They have to understand that what you do is for them.
Love_16
January 6, 2020
Wednesday
