Anger management

Anger management is one of the best things to consider especially if you can see that your anger gets the better of you most of the times.

Emotions are part of being human. It allows a person to be more human and to be able to express himself. Anger is one of those emotions.

You can never control your emotions but you can control your actions when you're angry. There are different ways on how a person shows his anger.

There are also different factors to consider when a person gets angry. No one is born grumpy it just simply angry about the world or the people around him.

Factor #1. Mood swings

Women are prone to mood swings more than men. When women has their monthly period, they tend to be irritable and overly sensitive in small matters. It's because of the hormonal imbalance they experience whenever they have their menstrual period. It differs in each woman's case.

There are women who feel just fine even with their ongoing period. They can perform well and do their day to day task just like how they perform without their period.

There are also women who feels as though they are about to die from too much pain in their abdomen. This is called dysmenorrhea. This usually happens even before a woman's mentrual period starts.

The highest level of mood swings is when women are pregnant, they emotions are all over the place and if you aren't understanding enough, you'll surely fight with her and just ignore her for being unreasonable. This must not be an issue because it's a given for she has two lives to take care of.

Since mood swings are very frequent to men, their anger management issue is caused by other factors.

Factor #2: Unhealthy lifestyle

There are different habits which contribute to anger. Those habits are often considered by people as an escape from reality or they call it as their stress reliever.

Alcoholism. When a person engages in alcohol, his behavior starts to change in due time. People say that drinking helps them keep their mind off of their problems ever do a while but the reality of life is that after heavily drinking, you'll just get a hang over the next day.

Problems aren't solved by drinking liquor. Alcoholic people often tend to abuse others saying that it wasn't their intention since they are under the influence of alcohol. Others can't live without it. They make it as their water and they felt incomplete without taking it.

Behavioral problems started with a single sip and taste which often leads to addiction when not stopped as early as possible.

Drugs abuse. Marijuana, cocaine, opium, and other types of drugs severely damage the brain. It leave hole in the brain and shrinks it as well. It's the reason why people who are addicted to drugs cannot rationalize and they can't even have the changed mind because it was already damaged for the prolonged use of drugs.

Drug addicts doesn't just have a changed behavior. They can also commit crimes in order to sustain their drug use.

They also tend to cause more sin by raping women and abusing children whenever they are under the influence of drugs.

Smoking cigarettes. Nicotine is one of the ingredients in making a cigarette which is what actually causes a person to get addicted to it. It started with just one stick up until a person becomes a chain-smoker.

When person stopped smoking, he will experience the withdrawal syndrome which makes him irritated since the absence nicotine won't keep him sane. Removing it from a person's system isn't as easy as pie. It's dangerous especially if no one can look after him. It's a slow and painful process but it add years to life.

Constant partying. When a person is used to going to different bars or areas in order to party, he'll eventually feel incomplete when he isn't able to do what he's used to do.

It's like an escape of the reality and trying to pursue a lifestyle that is difficult to keep up. It's like a social status that when you go partying, you are part of the higher class of society.

It requires money and if you don't have it, your anger gets the better of you.

Factor #3. Environment

A person's environment has the biggest contribution towards a person's behavior. You can't expect a child to properly behave if his family aren't. Whether he like it or not, he will adapt what he sees from his family.

When child grew up in a household with people shouting and fighting at all times, then he'll surely have the same attitude. There's no question as to how a child behaves. Just seeing his family is more than enough to know what a child goes through.

Toxic family relationships also has a huge part for anger issues. When a person is bullied whether in workplace, at home, in school or anywhere else, he"ll develop a strong facàde to make himself look a lot better.

Remember that bullies were once bullied.

Factor #4. Unresolved issues

Issues are supposed to be talked about. If you have hatred, bitter feelings or any negative emotion against someone, it causes you to behave in a negative way.

Most issues are unresolved, so when a person already has too much he just burst out and say even the things which has happened way back a few years ago.

This causes a person to be unforgiving. That unforgiveness leads to a more serious problem.

What to do when angry?

When a person is angry, all his rational thoughts are gone. All he can think about is the anger that is inside his heart. He allows his anger to speak for him.

• Take some time to cool off. When a person is angry he doesn't think about the words that he say. He will say whatever he feels like saying.

The words you have said while you're angry can never be taken back. It's already etched to the heart and mind of the person you're angry with. You have spoken out of your anger but it's never an excuse to hurt the one you love.

Words are sharper than two edged sword. It cuts deep and the wound might be unseen but it takes a long time to heal.

• Breathe in and breathe out.

If you can feel that you're about to burst out, you have to remember whom you are talking to. Don't just allow your emotions to speak for you.

• Allow your mind to calm down.

This is a difficult thing to do especially if you are overpowered by your emotions. When the situation is overwhelming people often tend to allow their emotions to get the better of them.

You can change it by remembering to calm down. You must know how impactful it is when someone spout words out of pure anger.

Once you've calmed down, you'll instantly regret the words you have said and it's too late for you to take it back.

• Resolve the issue.

Talk about the problem. Don't just let it pass by not allowing yourself and your oppressor to settle things. If you just let it pass, the issue isn't really resolved. It just made the issue a lot bigger.

Talk it out and sort what needs to be sorted. Look at the brighter side of things. Work out on the things which you must resolve so the next time around you'll have a different issue to resolve.

Isn't it tiring to argue about the same thing for the same reason?

• Be forgiving.

You must understand that you yourself also has done mistakes. You also needs to know which is more valuable than you.

Is it your emotions or your relationship with the person?

"I hate it that when a person is angry he says all the hurtful words he can utter and after cooling down, apologize as if nothing has happened. The truth is it's way too painful for the person who heard it. It's not as if there's a delete button where a person can just simply forget the words he heard. Love must overpower anger no matter what happens. Never forget that most of the times your anger leads the peron you love a step further away from you."

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January 18, 2021

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