Admit it or not, it is quite a challenge to be more patient in this world we live in. The increasing pressure every day needs us to be more parient more than ever. The world we live in is surrounded by people who are selfish and tends to focus on themselves, not open for agreement and finds it hard to show self control.
But what about us? Has the impatience of others rubbed off on us? What does it really mean to be patient?
The Meaning of Patience
When we hear the word patience, we usually think about putting up with an annoying person or a trying situation. But patience is more than that. Being patient means we endure with a purpose. We consider the welfare of the person that causes the trying or disagreeable situation, in this sense we can see beyond our own needs. So when someone wronged us and even tries to provoke us, we try to do something to ng improve the disturbed or damaged relationship.
How To Be More Patient
Every day, we are faced with uncontrollable situations and it doesn't benefit us if we keep on worryi g about things we don't have control over.
The more patient we are, we are more likely to make good decisions, gain good friends and live a healthier life. So how to be more patient? Consider the following:
Know what triggers you to be impatient.
There are the so called impatient triggers. These are the situations, things, or even people that makes or causes us to be impatient. So ask yourself, are there specific people who annoys you and try your patience? It may be your family member such as parents, children or your mate which you can call as the impatience triggers of your life. Your impatience trigger may also be related to time. For example, are you easily annoyed and lose your patience when waiting for someone whos running late? Do you usually lose your patience when you feel hungry, sleepy or tired?
When you are able to identify your impatience triggers, you may be able to anticipate the scenarios that might make you lose your patience and as a result you may be able to prevent being impatient.
Be Realistic
Always remember that things doesn't always happen the way we want it to and it can't be as fast as we want to. Face the reality that time doesn't move as fast as our expectations. Also, we can't always control the circumstances we are in. Instead of being anjoyed and losing patience over the circumstances that you don't have control over, identify the things that you can control. For example, instead of losing your patience when waiting for someone, why not try to do some other activities that might ease your boredom, you can try to be more productive while waiting too. Or instead of getting annoyed because the transportation to your destination takes time, why not prepare earlier so you will have sufficient time to get to your destination?
Make your life simple.
Yes, we may have the ability to do multitasking, but according to studies, our brain can't really concentrate on different things simultaneously. When continuously done, multitasking can erode our ability to pay close attention, focus and eats away patience, judgement and even problem solving.
When you are under stress, it is very hard to cultivate patience, so try to slow down a little and enjoy the things that you do. Set your priorities and if possible try to budget your time wisely. Don't waste your time on gadgets and hobbies if possible.
True enough, not all people can be very patient and we might deal with impatient people from time to time. But isn't it good to deal with things with patience? That way, we can be truly happier and enjoy life more.
It's really hard to cultivate patience, but we must try to. Nice article.