How to Teach Values Education and the Concept of Courtesy to the Child
The most important goal is to teach students the values and behaviors that are essential for a humane life. The rules of courtesy approved by the society should be given to the child without coercion. This is possible by being a model for the child with our best behavior. The delicacy and sincerity in the relations within the family will spread to the society. Courtesy and respect should be embraced by all members of the family. Children who are treated kindly by their parents are easier to learn etiquette.
Don't embarrass your child about being polite in public. Such behavior undermines your child's self-esteem and respect for you. It serves no purpose other than embarrassment and anger. Etiquette should be taught to him by example. If there is a situation that must be warned, the child should be gently put aside and spoken without embarrassment.
The topics listed below should be taught to the child in the family without forcing them with rehearsals according to their age. You can have your child introduce himself in his own words. (It can be taught with the child starting to speak.) At this age, although the child does not know the meaning of the greeting, he is socially accepted with this behavior. This both supports the child's self-confidence development and these behaviors become the behavioral characteristics of the child. Why and how to apologize? (It can be processed from 3 years of age.) How should table manners be? (Can be processed from 3 years of age.) How should the guests be welcomed and sent off? (It can be processed from the age of 4.) How should the door knocking style be? (It can be processed from 3 years old.)
Your child's pranks increase, especially between the ages of 4-6 and provoke you with their stubborn behavior. This is a process in the child's development. With such behaviors, the child forms his/her personality by controlling your disciplinary boundaries and learns the limits and prohibitions. Your child's learning of these limits and prohibitions depends on your attitudes. If you laugh at the child's pranks and provocations and attribute such behaviors to his intelligence, the child will set his own limits. If you meet these behaviors of the child with strict discipline and violence, this time, personalities who have grown up with a culture of strict obedience, who are not self-confident and who are afraid to seek their rights and who cannot distinguish what the social limits are in respect and obedience will emerge. The appropriate approach is to make the child realize what is wrong and what he should not do, and what is right and what he should do, with a common attitude of parents and a consistent authority.
When expressing your expectations, tell the child what you expect them to do, not what they should not do, and appreciate their good behavior. For example; Instead of “Don’t eat with your hands”, “Can you please use the fork?” Phrases such as “How politely you hold your fork” and “How nice it is to have your meal in front of you” encourage your child to act kindly.
However, we are sure that it is impossible for us to achieve this without the support of you, the families.
