Cheating broke my trust leading our Relationship to collapse.

What comes to your mind when you hear the word cheating? It's not pleasant to the ear right and negative thoughts will run in our minds, formulating many scenarios and reasons why cheating was executed.

The definition of cheating according to meriam webster dictionary are the following.

•  to break a rule or law usually to gain an advantage at something.

• to take something from(someone) by lying or breaking a rule.

•  to prevent (someone) from  having something that he or she deserves or was expecting to get.

There are many reasons why cheating is executed in the first place. There are many ways to cheat in a relationship. Relationship with your partner or girlfriend or boyfriend are meant to be faithful from the start till the end.

As I take my journey of a teenage boy, having a girlfriend is only a natural thing. Many teens or younger nowadays are already in a relationship with someone they knew, someone they met online and someone they met in a mall. For me it's not a bad thing but it will turn out bad if you're dying to have one, as if you cannot live tomorrow if you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend to show to your friends or relatives. By the way it's not cool to show off your partner to your friends and relatives, to the point that you're teasing your friends for not having one.

We all know that being in a relationship in our teens is just a puppy love or we can say that both sides are not serious at all or not yet fully ready to be merge as one and a family. We all know that both sides are not yet responsible enough to be a parent to their child.There are tendencies that being in early relationship can lead to teenage pregnancy and I witnessed many.

As I said earlier it's only natural to be in a relationship in our teenage years and this article is all about my experienced when I had a girlfriend at the age of 17. Many says that cheating was part in a relationship but for me it's not. Cheating is not a part in a relationship and it should not happen in the first place if you are contented and faithful, even if you're far away from each other.

At the school, first move.

This all happened in our school when we were in junior highschool, grade 9, we are both in a science section , she was my classmate and seatmate. I'm a shy type and I don't talk to much especially to her but I had a crush on her and I don't know that she also had a crush on me. So the feeling is mutual. Since I learned from his bestfriend that she had a crush on me, I used that opportunity to make the first move. I wrote in a piece of index card,

" Hi, I just learned that you had a crush on me and I just want you to know that I had a crush on you too. I'm happy to know that and can I have your number , you can write it at the back of this index card if it's ok with you then just leave this one in my notebook beside you."

and put it in her notebook. I don't have the courage to tell it to her personally because I'm shy and I'm not that handsome just like the other boys inside the class lol. As expected I saw the index card in my notebook at the afternoon and I checked immediately her number at the back and thanks God she wrote it.

Courting and finally she became my queen.

I saved her number and began to text her but first and foremost I asked her if she had boyfriend or if someone is courting her at present and thankfully she replied none. She also added that I'm the first one to talk to her about relationships. So in school , the boundaries between us was finally gone and we began to talk to each other , telling stories about our own lives and many things. Then one day, I asked her if it's okay to court her since my feelings for her was growing and finally she said yes. I began to court her, we go to the canteen togethet at recess thesame for lunch and I accompany her on her way to their home since it's just a walking distance from school.

I asked her to go out on weekends and the routine goes like that in almost 2 months. Finally on her birthday, all my efforts paid off , she finally answered me that she will become my girlfriend and promises that we will be faithful to each other till the right time will come.

Our relationship goes smoothly and it was happy. I introduced her to my parents and family , she also did the same for me. We celebrated our monthsaries with our families. Over the months I became close to her family especially to her father. Her father is a guitarist and we spend the time together, jamming together when he was drunk.

We go to different places because she loves to explore especially hiking and visiting falls in our province. We used our tricycle in every adventure and the driver was her older brother, we were close also. Her brother is so protective when it comes to her so when I'm at their house, he always remind me that he loves his sister so much and always tells me to love her and don't make her cry. When he's telling that to me I always answered " Yes I will because she is my queen and I will not let a single tear fall from her eyes."

In my part as her partner I will do everything for her. I even confronted those who are making gossips about her in their barangay. That's how I love her, I'll make a stand for her when times are challenging her. I'm very happy that I already found my queen forever.

Happy anniversary turns ugly.

Our adventures together continues happily until I observed something that continues to make my mind uneasy but still I continue to observe.

One month before our anniversary, she's avoiding me for several days and it's making me uncomfortable. Since we've been together for 11 months, the trust between us was strong and we entrust our facebook account to each other so I had an access to her account. Questions in my mind continues to build and one time I decided check her account, it's not my thing to check someone's account especially her account. It's my first time to check it despite how long we've been together and guess what I found out in her account.

There was a guy who's chatting her and as I scroll back in their conversation, I found out that he's her exboyfriend. I thought that she don't have any boyfriend before because that's what she said back then. I continue to scroll back and the next thing I found out made me really angry to the point of punching the wall.

I can't believe what I just saw in her account. They were secretly meeting up and they even record a video doing something unpleasant. I didn't finish the video because I'm crying and I can't bear to watch it. Oh my God, we've been together for 11 months and we never did something like that because I'm waiting for the right time. I log out her account while crying and after that I punched the wall several times until the time I realized my right hand were covered with blood , I can't feel anything in my right hand , it became numb.

After that day , I went to their house and her mother was there. I asked where is she then her mother called her. She came out of their house and she noticed my hand then began to asked what happened. Instead of answering her, I immediately asked her why she's avoiding me for several days and she can't look at me directly and began to cry. Then she said that she was pregnant and saying sorry for how many times because she know that I'm not the father of that child. She know that because there's not a single thing happened between us.

She explained everything to me but I can't process it in my mind. The only thing I said to her was,

" I love you and I respected you. I didn't make even a single move to you because I'm waiting for the right time. I did everything to make you happy , your family knows that. So why?".

I didn't asked the whole details how it happened because it's squeezing my heart. I say goodbye to her kissing her in forehead, to her mother and to her father, his brother was not there at that time. His father was very angry to her, he threw the mug he was holding at the wall making a loud sound. Before leaving I talked to her father that no matter what don't beat her despite of what happened and her father said yes.

After that, the trust I have in her was broken to pieces and I ended our relationship in that day. From that day, I'm afraid to love again , I'm afraid to lose a queen again. Until today I don't have any girlfriend and still waiting for the right queen who will value the trust I have for her.

You see , cheating can be avoided if you want. The final decision is in your hands. Cheating can break the trust between you leading your relationship to collapse just like us. If you're in a relationship right now , please don't ever cheat to your partner. Please be faithful to your relationship.

This is my entry for weekly prompt of ma'am @JonicaBradley

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