"Is Being In-Love Not Enough?"

They say marriage is a holy matrimony uniting a man and a woman with pronounced vows infront of the people you love and loves you but above all infront of the Almighty God.

But how can a happily married couple such as Jason and Moira ended up in an unfortunate, heart-breaking separation when they were once so in love with each other? And why are many so affected by their heartbreak as if everyone became their close relatives or friends?

To answer this is to realize that their relationship was an epitome of a love story we all would have wanted to have. They made us believe that there is forever and that it is possible to do it right without any compromise. And because of their break up, we are now confronted of the possibility that if a beautiful story like theirs shattered into pieces then maybe ours can be too.

Jason has admitted that he had been unfaithful to Moira. His bestfriend, his confider and the love of his life. I know many asked HOW COULD HE DO THAT TO HER? To the woman whom he cherished and loved so dearly? And how could a Godly loving man make those poor choices? Was it just a sudden mistake that he never intended to happen? Or was it intentional and Jason is really as guilty as others claimed?

I guess this is not a question anymore of Christianity or belief. This is beyond that. This is about the little choices and compromises Jason has chosen long way before. I honestly believe that such poor action and decision didn't come in a day but only a result of pre-meditated thoughts he always had ever since.

Many even considered their relationship as Godly and done right. We fell in-love with them as they have inspired us to hope that in love there is fulfilled joy. Now that this happened, we feel dismayed and we feel threatened as this could possibly be us. However, one thing I know for sure that loving is not all about the feelings we have for someone for we know feelings change and betray, and they are only indicators of what is going on inside our hearts. But love is not just about 'falling in love' but 'keeping the love' you've fell into. We are able to do this when we fully understand the importance of the daily decision we choose or make, either small or big in order to keep the vows, the promises and the covenant we both said to one another. So I don't think being inlove is enough for feelings come and go, staying in love and choosing to love are the real challenge and a choice we make every single day.

I leave you with some of the lyrics from the song 'Slow Fade' by Casting Crown;

It's a slow fade
When you give yourself away
It's a slow fade
When black and white have turned to grey
And thoughts invade, choices made

A price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you're thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

To end this, I just wana say that I don't agree with cheating. In cheating there is no 'because' or 'but', there is only an obvious result of poor actions done in small steps of compromise and unresolved issues of the heart. In no way I am adding myself to the list of people who already made their judgment on Jason.

I also just have to say that 'Temptation is NOT a sin', it becomes one when we act on it. However with situations like Jason and Moira, this reminds me of what Jesus said to the people who stoned the woman who committed adultery,

"Let him who has not sinned be the first one to throw a stone at her.”

I have made many mistakes in life as well so I choose not to throw stones at any body, including Jason. We may not focus too much on the sins of others but instead learn from their mistakes so we may not fall into the same trap. Atleast, that is what the smart and the wise would do.

Thank you for reading❤️