What will you do in this situation?

Howdy folks 🤠, how are you today?

My day was a lot busier than I thought it will and that's because I did some activities I didn't plan for. From engaging on readcash and hive to curating some articles on dreemport, down to an unexpected and very long phone call, then finally doing some coding exercises gotten from the computer science course I am taking with Harvard, I didn't take a break from morning till later in the evening.

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I am very tired right now but I am glad about the number of things I was able to do today, I just hope I can keep up that energy tomorrow. It's one thing to start doing something but it's a totally different ballgame when it comes to keeping it consistent. But enough of my rambling, let's just go over to the main topic.

A very expensive gift

I was browsing through Twitter earlier this evening when I came across a somewhat interesting post. A guy tweeted that his friend is feeling worthless because his girlfriend was gifted an iPhone 13 and a huge sum of money by her best friend who is a guy

The boyfriend was planning on gifting her a pair of Nike sneakers worth about $50 but someone else just gave her an iPhone 13 worth around $800 and also $1000, and that made him very insecure and suspicious that she was probably having an affair with her "best friend".

Before you start criticizing him for not trusting his girlfriend, I will like to point out that it's normal for anybody to feel that way in a situation like this. Ladies might not know how it feels but let me cook up a scenario you might relate with. I used "cook up" because the scenario is actually going to be about food 😆

Now, imagine you cooked a basic dish for your partner and you took it to his house to surprise him but you met him eating a very exquisite food that looks a lot more expensive than what you brought, and a beautiful lady is sitting next to him who he introduced as his best friend, how will you feel?

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There might not be anything going on between them we can't help ourselves from feeling the way we will feel when faced with something like that, emotions aren't something you can just flip on and off like a light switch, different factors can trigger them and sometimes we can't escape some of those emotions.

Ok, I think we should all be on the same page at this point, now let's go back to the main issue. The truth is that I will have the same reaction the boyfriend is having and a lot of thoughts will run through my head because that's a very expensive gift which is around $1800, why will anybody just do that if nothing is going on between them?

Secondly, why will someone have a best friend of the opposite gender when they are already in a relationship? Isn't your partner supposed to be your best friend? This topic of opposite-gender best friends trended in my country a couple of months back and a lot of crazy things were revealed (I even made an article about it here).

I learned a lot of things during that best friends viral era. Some people sleep with their best friends and over 90% of those who aren't doing it want to do it, even the ones already in a relationship with someone else. Do you think it's possible for a male and female to be best friends without one of them falling in love with the other? Personally, I don't think it's possible.

You might argue that you have seen male-female bestfriends where neither of them is in love with each other but can you even tell when one of them is in love? It might be that one of them was in love in the past but got past it and moved on but the point I am trying to make is that at one point or another, one of them will catch feelings.

It's just the laws of nature, you can't fight it, and neither can you cheat it. When two people are always spending time together, will it be hard for love to join the party? Sooner or later, one of them will want something more than just friendship. Some of the so-called best friends even cuddle and they call it harmless, like wtf?!

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With the viral best friend brouhaha that happened some months back in my country, it isn't surprising to see that young man in the screenshot I posted earlier suspecting his girlfriend of cheating with her "best friend", who wouldn't think that way after reading some of those crazy stories?

Most people on Twitter advised him to remain in the relationship but he should no longer take the girlfriend seriously, he should just be enjoying her company for now until she decides to leave on her own. Twitter is seriously the last place you should ask for relationship advice 😂. Scratch that, social media as a whole should be a no-fly zone when it comes to relationship advice, only use them if you know you're tired of your relationship 😆.

What do you think about this issue? If you were the guy, what will you do? Will you tell her to return the gifts at the expense of coming out as an insecure and controlling individual? Will you break up the relationship? If you were the lady, will you accept such expensive if you know your partner is not going to be comfortable with it? Let me know what you think in the comments below, coz right now I don't even know what to think, all I keep replaying in my head is; "she's definitely cheating" 😂

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Tuesday July 5, 2022