Howdy folks, how are you all doing today? Do you know what's coming in less than 3 days from now? Yep, it's Christmas! 🥳 Are you excited about it? I like to think I am (or I try to tell myself that).
I am still waiting for BCH to rise so I can sell some of mine and do some last-minute Christmas shopping. Right now the price has risen a bit and it's around $443, let's see how it will be tomorrow and I am just going to sell some no matter what the price is.
Jumping to conclusion
I was a bit bored today so I was scrolling through nairaland.com hoping to catch a juicy post and then I saw one about a man that almost destroyed his marriage with his own hands (read the full gist here)
According to him, he suspected his wife was cheating on him because a certain number was always calling her at night. He even heard her saying one day; "you know I am a married woman" but he didn't ask her about it coz according to him, he doesn't like confrontations
He decided he needs more evidence before he confronts her, so what did he do? He met with some tech gurus on how to go about recording his wife's phone calls. At last, he bought the same phone as her and one day, he pretended he had mistakenly taken her phone and went to work with it.
He took the phone to the techies and they installed something in it to help record the wife calls and after listening to the recordings, he realized the person the wife has been speaking with at night is her customer who's helping his fiancee to clear her debt, and he is paying it in installments.
Would you say he did the right thing by bugging his wife's phone? It's smart, but it's definitely not the right thing. He could have just asked her about it but he didn't follow that route and just decides to find out on his own, doesn't it show he doesn't trust his wife?
But on the flip side, if the wife was truly cheating and he asked her about it, she will probably say the person she's always talking to is her customer. I mean, you wouldn't expect her to say she's cheating now, would you?
When I said the man played it smart, what I meant was that he didn't suddenly start accusing the woman of cheating (which is something some people do in that situation), he decided to gather enough evidence first just to be certain.
A lot of marriages have been broken because of things like this, and even the ones that aren't broken won't ever be the same as before after such confrontation because it will show that there's no trust in the marriage.
Communication is very important to strengthen bonds in any relationship and I fully realized it today. I had to call my uncle today who I haven't spoken with for a very long time and the first thing he said when he realized who was calling was; "you have stopped calling me, don't you know communication is important?".
I fully agreed with him after the call ended and I realized I actually missed talking to him. Lack of communication can make the mind assume a lot of things that may or may not be true, pair that up with mistrust and it will be the perfect combo to destroy any relationship.
It's very easy to jump to conclusions when we don't talk about the things that are bothering us, just like the man in the above story that assumed his wife is cheating just because of her unusual night calls.
It's very important to communicate frequently because it's the best way to build trust. We can learn a thing or two from a person during communication, even when we don't specifically ask about that thing.
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Wednesday December 22, 2021
I'm very happy that the result was positive. She didn't cheat him. And communication is the most important thing in any relationship.