I'm a full spec, I don't know about you

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I was so occupied yesterday and that blocked my chances of visiting your articles. I'd try my best to cover up today.

I had a chat on WhatsApp with a female friend last week where she was being battled with low self esteem. Just because she's chubby and yet to get a boyfriend, she concluded that her stature is the cause of it. Meanwhile, she's heavily endowed at the back and that has only drawn married men to her with lots of disturb and she's be declining and running away, on the other hand also, the young ones that have been coming to her are just after her body and she's been declining. That was what she told me.

She was like, her look is only attracting irresponsible People and she's tired and depressed. I did my best to calm her down and gave her illustrative convictions. I asked her;

Me: You said it's not only the married men that have been coming for you?

She: Yes and no, young guys do come too?

Me: Why have you not accepted one?

She: Actually, it's not all of them that are after my body at the glance/start, I don't just like the look of the once that appeared serious, talking about the young ones

Me: You see? Not all of them are coming because of your body. Some have seen the beauty in your eyes and decided to give chance for bonding but you didn't allowed.

Low self-esteem was eating her life, she felt depressed because she thought that she's not good looking and hence no guy want to consider as a girlfriend. This is where most of us missed it, you think because of your little glitches in your body system therefore you are a mistake or error, nah! It's never like that.

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God said we are beautifully and wonderfully made, blaming God because of your looking is an insult to God. Yeah, you read it right.

Let me surprise you... do you know that often times the "ugly ones" marry first and marry the finest too? Lol. Yeah, that beauty the world consider as the beauty is fine but God's beauty is the best. You'd see the prettiest ones still maintaining beauty and declining men while the semi pretty are getting married and settling down...(let me not go into deep). I'm not saying that "ugly ones" are the best, no! I mean your creator knows what h did.

Someone somewhere want to be like you

Okay, we know that human needs are insatiable, we keep wanting more or want to be like someone. I told that girl that, "do you know that ladies are praying to be like you? They want to big backside to suffocate men and show them pepper?"🤣

I know of a guy that wanted to grow beards by all means but the processes kept disappointing him. He had so much admired guys with beards and wanted to fall to line but it didn't worked, and to the other guys with beards they're wishing it's possible for them to turn to beardless because the cost of maintenance is too much. This is life we live in, one man's food is another man's poison.

This has to do with every aspect of our lives, not just the look but in our way of living. Someone once told me that he want to be like me, not the look but by the thirst for God, and the ugly truth then was that I was about to give up in panting after God because it seemed nothing was working. But after I heard that, my soul was ignited.

Are you suffering from low self esteem and depressed because you think no one likes you Maybe because of your look?

No matter what, no matter how you look, there's someone somewhere in that your environment (yeah, within) that just like you, if you look clearly enough you'd see him or her.

This point got my attention the more yesterday, there's this lady I've been cutting heart for in our church, I've been observing her for a while, the way she smile, walk and dance. She's been stealing my concentration in church recently. In all these, she's yet to notice my fall for her because I've been admiring her codedly...shhh🤫. In the other way round, don't you think she might be suffering from this low self esteem of "no one wants me"? But she don't know that someone have been catching thoughts on her.

No matter what, don't put yourself in a low self esteem zone, God said we were all beautifully and wonderfully made, he didn't make any mistakes. Even the points we think we are deformed or not fine as we ought to, are usually our killing points.

Sometimes ago when I was in secondary school, they used to come be big head and i used to fight and cry alot on that. But now, now when I look myself in the picture I don't see the big head anymore, I've turned to a full spec. I'd snap photos now and start throwing accolades to God for creating me this way. I be full spec!

Don't downgrade your look for any reason!

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29th November 2021

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