There is a saying that, you are what you utter or say, which should make us to control what we utter in life. This boneless tongue we have has the big ability to make peace or end wars, it has the ability to destroy families or life long relationship.
So we ask ourselves, what's so unique about speech of the tongue, well the most unique about this tongue we have is that, when words is blurted out, it can never be retrieved. What we use the tongue for has the ability to make us or destroy us, which is why we need to watch it and conceal it. So many times we feel like raging when someone err us, but the ability to control our rage which in turns has the effect on the way we use the tongue, which makes us a strong person. The strongest person isn't a person who can carry heavy load or fight the mightiest, but the strongest person is the one who can control his/her tongue or anger.
The ways the Tongue can be used wrongly;
The Insulter; Yes who doesn't like to insult even at a slightest joke, but there should be a limit to the way insult, what may cause fracas. The tongue can be used wrongly to insult people without knowing what the person is actually going through in his or personal life. In this case the tongue is being used wrongly by insulting another person without the actual knowledge of what the person night be going through or how he will feel or take the situation.
The Two-Faced; These are the one of the worst kind of people, they appear to you in a form and appear to others in another form. Imaging someone telling you A and then goes outside telling people B, that's ridiculous isn't it?. They come to you, talk to you or ask a question from you concerning a topic, but they go outside there to portray another thing, sometimes these people act like a good person while with you, but while they are away, they bring you down and say bad comments about you, this act of two faced is not only detest by The Almighty, but it has the power to destroy the perpetrator and relationship built over the years, do everything to stay away from this kind of people.
The Judge; These are one of the worst people on earth too, imaging saying facts about what they do not know, saying something which they do not have knowledge about and stand on it like they know part and passu of that thing, these kind of people are sometimes referred to as the blinded. Like they say, we shouldn't judge the book by its cover, but rather take time to know what that thing is or the situation that thing is before passing comment. The pain and bitterness these kinds of people gives is second to none, imaging saying what you don't have knowledge about and standing on it like you really know. The perfect example is seeing a lady with a tattoo drawn on her body with ear and nose piercings, then all what people could say is "this girl is rass, she's wayward and cannot be matched or taken as a wife, but deep down the lady just chooses the lifestyle thinking it's normal, knowingly to herself that she doesn't drink nor smoke, infact she's still a virgin, then an understanding man approaches her, she got along ,they got married and he found out she's still a whole, imaging how amaze the man would be? Don't judge people by what you see but by what they actually tell you.
The Chatterbox; We need to understand this, there's no crime in talking a lot, but the need control it so it won't endanger us has to be done. Some people are naturally quiet while some are naturally talkative, hence when someone naturally talks a lot, theres a chance that he/she would utter the wrong statement. Nothing is wrong being a chatterbox, just that the more you talk, the greater chance of destroying how people value or view you.
The Biter; You know the phrase "you are doing good in my presence and biting me at the back". This has to do with backbitting or gossiping, and these two things is not disliked by The Almighty, but it spoils your reputation and your good deeds as well. Dont let us misunderstand the meaning of backbiting, a situation or a statement would be classified as backbiting when; The person being spoken about will not like it if he/she finds out about the discussion. When the person being spoken about is not aware of the said discussion. When the said discussion is false or lack authenticity, and this one is bad because it's synonymous with spreading false rumors or false accusations.
Let's learn to guard our tongue, it can save us and at same time destroy US.
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