Changes...

Hello everyone and happy belated new month. It’s being a while since I have posted, apologies. But I’m here now and it’s feels really good to have you reading another article from me today. So it’s just the first week of April and unlike other weeks in April,this week held something very special for me. It was a very unique week in my life because *drum rolls* It was my birthday week. Yipee!!!! This person(I) became a much bigger person and I won’t lie, It is exciting and at the same time very terrifying. I know a whole lot of people will agree with me that becoming an adult is not as great as we imagined it to be when we were much younger. Back then, as young and much smaller as we were, it was much easier to have very wild imaginations about who we would want to be when we become much older( some, our parents and guardians imagined for us). I remember wanting to be like my dad, did what he did, had the number of children my parents had. But as one gets older, one gets to realize that what we know and  experience shapes us individually and almost 100 percent of the times, irrespective of biology/genetics, what we get to know and experience growing up will definitely be much different from the experience of those we look up to or those that have been before us. Therefore, we are shaped differently to make different choices from those who came before us.

If you think about it, considering how powerful our knowledge and experience are to shape us and the decisions we make, This makes the future; the coming days, the coming months, the coming years, really uncertain, with enough power to maybe affect the goals one may have  penned down to achieve today. What if one knows something new in the next two weeks that causes a paradigm shift for such a person and makes one decide to just become a priest or climb Mount Everest or decide to be a cattle rearer(highly unlikely..lol). It goes to show how pliable our resolve can be at times. Personally, over the years, what I have wanted or hoped to achieve has changed over time due to what I have had to experience. I bet it's that way with a lot of people. People having to redefine themselves as they get older; people  having to change their styles, habits, goals, perspectives on different  things to accommodate the new person they feel themselves becoming. In the end, change, indeed, is the one and only constant thing.

But as much as it's possible for us to be pliable, there are still things worth keeping  constant and intact about who we are no matter what  we see or get to experience. They include,but not limited to, being kind, showing love and being fair. There are times what we get to see or experience can leave us feeling really sad with a lot of regrets. It can leave us regretting why we chose to be good and fair in the first place. Out of hurt, It can leave us making decisions to not ever show love or express a level of reluctance towards showing love. It's very understandable that such stances are made but one thing worthy of note is that at the end, choosing forgiveness and pursuing emotional healing would make one feel much better. 

Nothing in this life is set in stone and change  is the one constant thing. It's good and it shows growth. But as good and very important as change is, we do not let things that make us good, loving and kind leave. We should endeavour to keep that part of us constant even though we go through hell and back. 

Thanks for reading…