Forced Marriages - what do you think?

A story from a friend

Someone shared this story and needed some advice. I know this might help someone here.

This one is about a young guy who was desperate to marry some years ago. He met a lot of ladies and he was seriously interested in marriage and not playing around, but each of these ladies kept disappointing him, breaking his heart, wasting his time and money, but they never intended to marry him. He was always disappointed but he kept forgetting and forgiving, hoping to get a perfect lady. Pastors prayed for him and told him he would find his wife. The last serious relationship he had, on one of the days he came to visit the fiancee, he met the fiancee's friend who gave him a wedding card of the the same lady he was about marrying.

*So he has decided not to marry again despite that he's the only son and he is being pressurized by the mom to get her a grandchild*

Here's my opinion on such matters;

Well, have anyone noticed that if you are desperate to find something... Everything is going to be in disguise to make you think you found it.... All m saying is when we want something... Our feelings and emotions simply blinds out ...we tend to make unhealthy decisions because of that...

In this situation, being desperate won't help.... Create time and watch things... You might be able to differentiate the real from the fake

Being pressurized won't help... You are the one getting married not your mother...getting married to a wrong person isn't what you want....just take your time... Nothing good comes easily

I would also take a walk from such relationship coz it shows you want yo marry because of two things.You are being pressured and your mum wants a grandchild.I have had such kind of experience that's why i can contribute to this.

The joy of the Lord maketh rich and doesn't not add sorrow.He should be more prayerful and shun pressure from family and friends.

Marriage is too long a time to be much in a hurry.

My suggestion to the young man in question is; Love comes to those who believe although they have been disappointed.. Desperate people will always make mistakes.. When a man is desperate especially when it comes to issues concerning the heart, virtually everything that comes around might look it to him.. In as much as he desires to settle down and things are not working fine despite his commitment and sincerity.. I suggest he should PAUSE.. Its either he is ahead of his creator or he is behind his creator.. He needs to take audit of his spiritual environment.. He should stop trying to do it by himself.. Ephisians 1：18. Apostle was addressing the people of Ephesus and he says and i paraphrase him “ that the our eyes of heart be flooded with light that we may know and understand the hope to which we are called..” God is love... His thoughts for us is of good and not Bad... I urge him to PAUSE and take stock of his SPIRITUAL life...

Please what do you suggest?