Here are some critical things you mustn't skip during courtship
1) Background.
2) Do's and don'ts
3) Weakness e.g snoring, eating habits. e.t.c
4) Formal education: to what level
5) verbal skills: how does he or she talks
6) Expected roles of both individuals in the marriage: His role as husband and father and her role as the mother of your children
7) Love and respect: to what extent does she respect or submit to you as her husband and to what extent does he loves you as his wife
8) Number of children
9) Type of family planning
10) Gap between children
11) Child rearing view
12) Mental, social, psychological, spiritual, philosophy of life
13) Ways of dealing with issues
14) Talk about smoking, drinking, alcohol and coming home late.
15) Night journey
16) Involvement of in laws and potential influence
17) Sense of humour: are you a person that doesn't laugh or joke, just study and pray every minute? Talk about it now.
18) Punctuality
19) Dependability: to what extent can you depend on him/her? some men will say " she depend on me for everything, she doesn't goal or vision" talk about it now.
20) verbal intimacy: freedom of expressing feelings
21) Home conflicts and management
22) Anger management: some spouse will say "whenever I'm in rage or anger, the only person that can calm me down is my mother or someone else" some will say "leave me for some time and I will get over it"
23) Fear and anxiety
24) Friendship with opposite sex: don't hand shake or hug any other man when I'm around e.t.c talk about it now
25) Family friends: who and who do you want as family friends? What caliber of people
26) Personal friends
27) levels of ambition
28) Personal goal and achievement
29) Cooperate life goal and achievement
30) Attributes towards weight: Many ladies are slim before marriage but got fat after marriage. If you are a type that like slim lady, look at her mother if she has, because she is likely to look like her mother later in life, spot belly, e.t.c talk about it
31) Religion believe and spiritual preference
32) Church denomination: is it her church you with be attending after wedding or his
33) Church involvement
34) Hobbies and Interest
35) Songs and Music
36) values and Goal
37) Self control: does he have problem with women
38) Past life
39) Amount of income to spend and save
40) House wife or career woman
41) Type of account
42) Finance in marriage: what percentage should be allocated to cloth, vacations, given away and to whom
43) Means and risk of investment
44) Attitude towards cleanliness
45) Location: where to settle, geographical, Commercial, spiritual, and social areas to live.
46) Order of priority: house before car or vise versa
47) size and style of house: bungalow, upstairs, flat, duplex, fenced or open house. Talk about it now
48) Ways of handling sickness: are you the type that if somebody vomit around you or see blood, you will run away?
49) Means of getting treatment: is it private hospital, or teaching hospital, or tradomedical center?
50) Payment of school fees
51) Children's schooling: private and public
52) Health standard: are you the type that uses the drug or faith? Talk about it
53) Interpersonal and social skills: does your partner have cacus, caliber, or levels? Does he or she have pride or look down on people?
54) Stinginess
55) House helper: maid, Gardner, driver, dry cleaner, house cleaner, e.t.c
56) Nature of food: only African food or continental or mixed
57) Mode of sleeping: together or separately
58) Mattress: water bed, mat e.t.c
59) sexual intimacy
60) Sexual intercourse during pregnancy
61) Type of furniture or interior decoration
62) Jewelries
63) Type of cloth to be wearing
64) Day or days of fasting in a week
65) Amount and type of travel prefer: is it every vacation or yuletide period? Is it by flight or land
66) Time to be spent together: some couple live away from each other throughout their lives, as a result of job e.t.c
67) When to go to bed and when to wake up
68) Time for family alter
69) Test on genotype, HIV/AIDS, blood group etc
70) Intelligent decision
71) Nature of hair do: weaving, curling, wig, e.t.c
72) Make up: use of earring, lipstick, cosmetics pedicure e.t.c
73) Temperament.
I hope this helps.
