If you want to change your life,
you need to overcome your fear of losing people.
You need to stop making decisions based on what you're supposed to do,
what will ruffle the least amount of feathers,
what will make others celebrate you and shower you in approval.
Stop hiding your real thoughts to make yourself more palatable to others,
to increase their comfort while disregarding your own.
The right people won't abandon you after witnessing your truth.
They will appreciate your transparency and vulnerability,
and will love you even harder.
Yes,
you will lose certain people when you stop letting them walk over you,
but they will be the wrong people.
The people who didn't deserve you anyway.
If you want to change your life,
you need to overcome your fear of losing people.
You need to stop making decisions based on what you're supposed to do,
what will ruffle the least amount of feathers,
what will make others celebrate you and shower you in approval.
Stop hiding your real thoughts to make yourself more palatable to others,
to increase their comfort while disregarding your own.
The right people won't abandon you after witnessing your truth.
They will appreciate your transparency and vulnerability,
and will love you even harder.
Yes,
you will lose certain people when you stop letting them walk over you,
but they will be the wrong people.
The people who didn't deserve you anyway.
RELEASE THE PAST
Nobody can completely get over a traumatic experience. Emotional wounds can be really difficult to heal.
Nobody gets to decide on how fast you should heal. Healing is an emotional rollercoaster. It’s a process that requires a lot of strength, tears and courage.
So take all the time you need to heal and rebuild yourself and your life, but remember to not eternally stay in that pain. Because time waits on no one.
You don’t want to find yourself on the same chapter twenty years from today; still angry, still sad, still miserable…
Find the strength to release the past. Be sick and tired of living in it. Break old patterns because they won’t help you open new doors.
Do whatever it takes to bring positive change back into your situation, challenge yourself everyday to create a new beginning. You can do it.
#quoteoftheday
#BeNnspired
THIS IS WHAT YOU DESERVE
Morning coffess, late night walks, Nostalgic music. Seeing sunsets 🌞, spoiling yourself with your favourite food. Hot showers, Rewatching good movies. Going to concerts. Listening to podcasts, joining communities, Meeting new people, Reading self help book.
Second chances. Forgiving yourself, loving your flaws. Being gentle to yourself. Saying "no" when you dont want to. Setting boundaries. Growing and learning new lessons. Prioritizing your own happiness. Loving the person you become each day.
My love, you are your own limit.
THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS
It’s okay to be angry. Anger is a response system for many emotions, grieving being a primary one. Underneath anger, there’s always sadness and pain.
But when anger sits too long in your heart, it can end up destroying you.
Forgiveness is decision to move on in peace with your life. It’s not an obligation. So if you can manage to move on without forgiving those who hurt you, and still find peace, then do whatever helps you grow and heal.
But if you are struggling to move on because you have so much bitterness and anger in you, and you can’t find a way out of that pain, consider forgiveness. It will liberate you.
The decision to forgive someone, for whatever pain they inflicted on you, will allow you to heal the trauma attached to that experience and the person that caused it.
Forgiveness will free you from an anchor that delays you, that ties you to pain and the unpleasantness of that event.
When you forgive, you get rid of a weight. You set yourself free and those who hurt you, lose all the power they once had over you!
Every time you wake up in the morning, you always have two choices, either to be happy or to be sad, whichever choice you choose will determine how your day will go.
Whatever dominates your mind dominates your life. Think positive thoughts, and you will live a positive life.
You will only be as happy as you choose to be. Choose happiness and everything needed to make it so will fall in place. Even if it doesn't, there's no better way to live than to intentionally maintain a happy state of mind, for it draws to you the best things of life, much more than you can find.
I know there's something meant for me to grasp—an accomplished dream; a day when I can finally say that, that is my moment to own; and a time when I can fully celebrate my life's victories. I still have this hope in me that eventually, I will also get there;I just can't set it high on a pedestal these days. I am feeling so low and restless, so I will just lay here, feel and absorb the quietness of the night, and not mind what's going on around me.
I existed and chose life.
I strived to reach this part of this day.
I survived, and that's enough.
Who knows, tomorrow might be the day for me to have.
LIVING A PEACEFUL LIFE
Peace is another word for surrender and acceptance. Don’t try to control life or people. Go with the flow.
Continuously work on yourself.
Many people struggle with peace because of the kind of people they’re surrounded by. Upgrade your circle and set clear boundaries with everyone.
Remind yourself that no human has the right to sit inside your head and continue to disturb your peace of mind.
No relationship is worth damaging your mental health. Keep your expectations with people realistic. People are unpredictable. Don’t make anyone the center of your world. Don’t expect you from other people.
Give people what they want. Don’t force, don’t chase, don’t beg.
Be okay with people not wanting you in their lives if that’s what makes them happy. Let people do what they want to do, so you know what they’d rather do.
Lastly, don’t stop being a good human. Just change who you’re being good to.
Good 🌃 night 🌃🥱
When God created you, He had a purpose for your life. He has planned all your days before one of them came to be, so remember that you are truly special in His eyes.
Happy Birthday 🎊🎉 🍰 Dear @coolmidwestguy
On your birthday, I wish you a long, healthy, successful, and happy life!
5 Gratitude Quotes To Uplift Your Day
Gratitude is riches, complaint is poverty.
Gratitude makes everything grow.
Showing gratitude is one of the simplest yet most powerful things human can do for each other.
The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become.
When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate and when life is bitter, say thank you and grow.
Have a grateful and powerful day 💖
My past self was not the most beautiful phase that I had, but she was the strongest and most courageous version of me that I have become. She got through alot of pain, and overcame many struggles; but she had gained lessons for the person that iam today. I won't have this brave heart without her presence in my life.
BEGINNING TODAY
Beginning today, I will no longer worry about yesterday. It is in the past and the past will never change. Only I can change by choosing to do so.
Beginning today, I will no longer worry about tomorrow, Tomorrow will always be there, waiting for me to make the most of it. But I cannot make the most of tomorrow without first making the most of today.
Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember that how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, all the fears you have overcome
HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS
Human relationships are not rocket science - they are far, far more complicated.
And that's because we are all different. We have had different lives, different upbringings and come from different backgrounds/ cultures.
Be okay with people switching up on you and painting you as the villain. Nobody is liked by everyone. Thats life.
If you know that you were nothing but good to them and your conscience is clear, then don't be bothered by them misjudging you and misunderstanding you.
Many times people project their own insecurities and traumas on others. So don't go out there trying to solve problems you did not create. It is not your job to make everyone happy.
You can't change the way people operate, but you can control the way you choose to respond to the things they say and do.
It's not your job to make everyone happy. No matter how peaceful and kind you are, there will always be someone who will paint you as the villain in their story.
You can have good intentions towards people and they will still perceive things differently based on their own reality, traumas and insecurities; that's not your problem.
Accept that you can't please everyone and that you are not for everyone. He a good human but don't try hard to prove yourself to people..let people misjudge you. Your life does not revolve around them.
SURRENDER
When you can't control a situation; and there's absolutely nothing you can do to change something. Then let it be.
Let it be what it wants to be. Let it be what it needs to be.
Go with the flow of life.
Accept that you can't control everything no matter how wise and intelligent you are. There will always be things that will challange you. Things that will be out of your control.
Keep doing you best but if you get to the point where there's absolutely nothing you can do about something. Let things be.
This is life. Let life happen to you. Let life flow. Don't force or resist anything. Only time will tell. Let life be life.
There will in your Lifetime be dozens of people who take your breath away.....
Be the one who remind you to breath, the one who knows your life song and sings it back to you, when you forgot the words awhile,
The one who knows how to make you smile through tears, they are the ones you should keep.
This world will always search for ways into breaking us, but I hope that despite it all, may we still find reason to keep falling in love with the beauty of being alive, and may we still keep on looking for the good in every person we meet on this lifetime. May we still keep on looking for the good in every person we meet in this lifetime. May we always, always choose to be kind.
The last can be heavy, the past can be traumatic, the past can be full of negetive memories but the past cannot dictate rest of your life.
A time will come where you are going to have to decide to move on from the past. Moving on is not about cancelling or forgetting what happened. The mind never forgets.
Moving on is about taking your power back. It's a decision to give yourself and your life a new beginning.
I hope that when you look into the mirror, you feel love for the person you see and that you are not judging yourself too harshly for your imperfections and mistakes.
I hope that you are super kind to yourself on days where you feel really down and that your re always taking care of your mind and your heart.
I also hope that you have come to realize that the way people have treated and made you feel in the past does not measure your worth. And that you don't need to be perfect in order to be loved by others and by yourself!
SELF LOVE
Think about someone you really love and care about, someone who means alot to you and everything you would do for them. if you could give them the world.
Just pause and think about that person if anyone comes in mind .
Now replace the image of that person with yourself. And Start giving all that love and kindness, to yourself. That's Self Love.
Love others but don't neglect or put yourself last, you owe yourself compassion, love, respect, patience, and kindness. Please give it to yourself. You need it.
Happiness does not require us to be constantly busy and on the go. Sometimes happiness looks like staying at home, wearing comfortable clothes, letting our mind relax and just doing you. It's a level of contentment that feels so good.
The apology, the closure, the justice, and the answers you are looking and waiting for, may never end up coming to you. Waiting on them will only keep you stuck in the past.
A time will come where you are going to have to accept that things are the way they are and that there's nothing you can do to change what happened.
Time won't heal you; but it's what you do in time that will help you. If you sit there and wait for answers, you might end up waiting forever. So find the courage to accept the past and gather the strength to move on from it.
TIME DOES NOT HEAL
Sometimes people don't apologize because they have alot of ego and don't care. Other times they don't because they are feeling guilt and shame.
But you don't need their apology to move on. They don't get to have that power over your life!
Not having answers and closure can be frustrating but again, life has to go on regardless of what happened.
Talking about justice, those who hurt you will eventually gave their karma, but that's not always something you can control. Your best revenge is not to worry about them. Focus on you. Rebuild and heal yourself.
And yes it's easier said than done, but that's how it's supposed to be. It's supposed to be challenging because only then, can it truely change your and transform your life.
I want you to be happy but most importantly, I want you to be free and at peace.
Think back at a time in your life where you went through something really painful you never thought you could overcome.
Think back on how you still managed to climb out of that state and go on with your life despite all the difficulties and challanges presented.
This time is not any different. You are still that strong person. You are wiser and more mature too. This chapter of your life is not permanent. You will overcome it. Yous re not meant to be defeated.
If you broke a limb today, you would suddenly get rushed to the hospital to get helped because the injury can be seen outward.
But when you get your heart broken, get mentally abused, nobody sees that emotional injury. Yet people are expected to keep functioning "normally" and let things go.
That's not how it works. An injury is an injury. The unseen ones are even worse because nobody knows how deep they are.
IF NOT TODAY, THEN TOMORROW
Your downstate is not permanent. Depression will pass. Stress will pass. Confusion will pass. Whatever is weighing you down will pass.
Grief may seem eternal but in time, you will manage to rebuild your life around it. You will be okay.
Right now just take it one day at a time. Everyday when you wake up remind yourself that if today is not a better day, tomorrow eventually will be.
Keep telling yourself these positive words everyday until you finally get to that day. And by then you will be glad you held on despite everything
You are not meant to be broken. You got light in you. Find and heal yourself. I wish you alot of happiness and peace!
Do you remember the person you were when you entered this year? Can you say you are still the same person? Or have you gone through transformation throughout the year?
Do you remember your new year resolutions? How far have you gone with them? Did you get to accomplish the things you wanted?
How was your year?????
HOW WAS YOUR YEAR?
We are approaching the end of the year. Many people didn't have a good year and if you are one of them, I just want to say that I'm proud of you for your strength, courage and making it this far.
When doing the restrospective of your year, write down everything you've learned about yourself, about people and about life this year.
Don't just focus on your losses and things that went south. Give yourself credits for your victories and achievements too. You have come a long way. Be proud of yourself.
When you find yourself asking questions like: why me? What did I do to deserve this? Why is life this way? Just why?
You are only setting yourself up for more hurt because you may never end up getting the Answers you are looking for.
I want you to know that's it's not just you. It's many other people struggling too. It's children fighting cancer. It's good people being abused. It's alot of pain happening every where, everyday; it's LIFE.
FEEL TP PURGE.
Identify your feelings and name them out loud. If you are angry, sit somewhere and express that anger.
Iam angry because.....
Iam said because.....
I feel this way because....
The most important thing is to get that feeling out of your chest, it will help you feel better.
Don't ignore what you are feeling because it will catch up with you in time and make you go through a mental break down.
Oh and also, when you tell someone that they hurt you, they don't get to decide if they did or not.
They don't get to tell you that you are too sensitive or overreacting. Pain is pain. No matter how little.
So feel to purge, purge to heal. The only way out I'd through.
@KatinessEverdeen
