What It Means To Be Single

A truly single person is one who is complete physically,emotionally,spiritually,and intellectually without dependence on Another person.

Dr Myles Monroe

In our generation today, been single is one of the difficult phase for teens,youths, young men and ladies and even married people.

Most people find it difficult to be their own person, they are always looking for someone to attach to, waiting for people's hiIndependencency, though some see it as been lonely which they don’t really enjoy.

Sometimes , The society make it seem like been single is not important and consequently seen as a taboo most especially for women. For we ladies, we were been raised in a society that teaches us we must attach ourselves to man for validation to have a voice, to be accepted, or to be seen as been relevant which I totally disagree with. I believe a woman should learn to be herself without carrying the baggage of dependency before marriage.

The word single is gotten from an old French (sengle, sangle meaning alone), from latin singulus ,a diminutive derived from a proto – indi- europen(sem meaning one,separate or individual) meaning , an individual person or thing rather than a pair or a group, Also means separated individual or person.

While, Single Life is often refer to someone who is not involved in any form of romantic relationship. In other words, it mean unmarried or not involved in a stable sexual relationship. To be single means to be able to individuate. Individuate is something you should learn when you are young and single. One of the reason why most young ladies and gentlemen tend to loss their in relationship is because they find it hard to individuate or to stand alone. To be a separated individual, get you a chance to find your voice,your temperaments, personality, to be yourself.

Things to learn when you are single

1) Independent

These is the freedom from dependency; exemption from reliance on, or control by others. There is a total difference between asking for help and been dependent. Most people, most especially the ladies rely on men for validation, they depends on men emotionally, financially and mentally which is very bad. As an individual you should learn to be yourself and depend on yourself for stability. Develop yourself all round so you don't have to be dependent on anybody for validation or reliance for any emotional or financial support. An example of someone who was completely independent was Jesus Christ andAdam. Adam was independent, he didn't depend on Eve for emotional,financial or mental stability. He was doing fine by himself before God decided to made Eve.

2) LOVE YOURSELF

For some reason, certain person on earth don't like themselves. They lack self love, which is the most important possession humans should have. The best thing to do for yourself in this life, is to love your

self Because even in the Bible, Jesus Christ make reference to loving yourself when He said"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment, And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour thyself" (22:37-39). That's means

1. for you to give love,you must first posses love.

2. For someone to love you, you

must first love yourself.

3.for you to love someone else ,you must first love yourself. To some people loving someone else is completely hard, these are quote for people who lack love.

When you love yourself it will be very easy to love someone else completely.

''Nemo DAT quod non ha bet'' one

cannot give what he does not have. Most people in this category, always have high tendency of losing themselves in toxic relationships ,they end up with partners who don't deserve them.

If you don’t love yourself, no one will. After all, the best relationship you can have is with yourself. Trust me, you can do fine by yourself.

3) solitude

This is state of being alone or being oneself. It can always be defined as having intimacy with yourself. Most people who practice solitude with themselves are more at advantages than those who don't. Funny how humans on earth don't really know their real self. They fake identity, lie to themselves and the rest of the world. Practising solitude at least twice a week is very healthy and good for self discovery because solitude is a journey for self discovery. Most people find it hard to be alone, they mistake alone for loneliness. They are constantly running from themselves,if you want to know yourself more practice solitude.

4) Individuation

This is the process of individuating or individualizing. It s the act of distinction of the individual from the general or universal.

The process of individuation is for unique self-identity, which is separate from that of any other individual, it is ongoing and can be considered both a goal and a lifelong process.

Carl Jung believed the process of individuation is an important life goal. In Jungian psychology, individuation describes a process of self-realization the discovery of one’s life purpose or what one believes to be the meaning of life. For example , According to Jungian psychology, when individuals lose touch with certain aspects of their selves, they may be able to reintegrate these aspects of their nature through individuation. Process of individuation is important for the development of a healthy identity and the personality, well functioning and formation of healthy relationships with others.

A person who does not adequately individuate may lack a clear sense of self and feel uncomfortable pursuing goals.

Feelings of depression and anxiety may result. Difficulty in individuating may also lead to increased dependence on others, challenges in romantic or professional relationships, poor decision-making skills, and a general a sense of not knowing who one is or what one wants from life.

5)KNOW YOUR VISION FOR LIFE

Nothing is as sad as two confuse people getting married. It is always heart breaking for someone who know his/her potential but then gets married to a confuse person,

the story don't always end well.

Your single stage is the time for you to know God plan for your life. Some human are still trying to figure God plan for there life,some are going anywhere life take them,

That's “tragic”. Know your purpose in life and try to figure out the reason you were created.

Being alone allows you to focus on yourself and discover your true potential.