L. I. F. E and is true meaning.
L- living
I- it
F- for
E- Eternity
Life actually meaning living it for Eternity.
When I was kid(5-10 age old) I used to think we are send into this world to play eat and sleep ( trust me I miss those days of no worry,no pressure,no drama, just peace and love no stress ).
When I was 18 year old I taught life was all about going to school, getting good grade, be fashionable ,grow old , get a job, get married, and have kids , grandkids and then die.
I never knew what life actually is still I was 20 years old. I then realized life is deeper that we think, we are send to this world not to ball , party, date , have a boyfriend or girlfriend, have good grade , graduate at the top of your class, get married and give birth to kid . Life is more than that.
God actually gave us this life in preparing for heaven , and those who are find worthy , we been given a chance to be with our Lord God forever.
That's why when Jesus Christ was on earth, the constant thing He always talk about was God Kingdom (heaven) in so many ways in difference verse and chapter of the Bible (the holy book)
Matt 6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God , and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
This verse just prove it that , the kingdom is more important than the house and car you are chasing after.
This life is not for you to make money , live big life, get married. Is for you to prepare yourself for heaven and God Kingdom.
Only when you are found worthy will you make heaven.
So live your life for eternity, set your heart for heavenly things not for the things of this world.
For we both know , materials things and wealth come and go. They don't live forever, and you can't carry any of the earthly things to heaven. They don't guarantee safe passage to heaven.
You are not going to heaven base on the number of cars or houses or wealth you accumulated on earth. But base on how you obey his commandments and live by kingdom principles and guidance.
Don't let the things of this world trap you, to forget about God kingdom.
Don't get me wrong , work , try to live financial free but put God kingdom first that's all
Live your life and put external life first.
Remember, This world isn't our home , we are just passing through .
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Does Tesco accept Paypal
**Introduction**
When shopping at Tesco, they are several ways you can pay for your groceses. Many are still wondering if Tesco accept Paypal as a payment method?
Then , here is everything you need to know?
**Answer paragraph**
**Tesco is UK largest supermarket that sells a wide range of goods and accept payment from various method.**
**If Tesco accept Payment from Paypal? The name is ''NO''. Tesco don't accept payment through PayPal from any customers both online and at the stores**
**The reason is because of the fees. The payment fees for using PayPal as a payment method is very high (2-5%) which made Tesco to blank list from the list of payment method.**
**The Alternative payment method**
**Tesco accept more traditional payment method for online payment which includes Mastercard, American Express,Visa debit card, wire transfer cash payment and Tesco Bank cards.**
**Is there a way to use PayPal at Tesco?**
Yes, Tesco only accept a PayPal cash card, which allows customers to use their PayPal card to make transactions from Paypal funds to their debit card
**Conclusion**
In conclusion, Tesco don't accept PayPal. This is because PayPal charges fee which is high.
Customers at the stores or online can make payments with their Mastercard,American Express, Visa, debit card, wire transfer.
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For You To Be happy, You Have To Let Go
Everybody has a different opinions of what happiness truly is and diverse ideas of how to be truly happy. Some believes that happiness is a state of mind which is true, while some attach the happiness to someone, something or properties.
John Templeton once said ; Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth... Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If you try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it.
Happiness is not a acquisition
You need to let go of the thought of I will be happy when I found my Mr Right, when I buy my dream car, when I buy my dream house or when I finally get what I want in this life.
It is human nature to aspire to have something you don't have, to be someone you aren't, to achieve something you haven't achieved.
These desire ,dreams, and ambitions motivate you and I to do things that bring us great success and fulfilment. Sometimes these same dreams or ambition bring us disappointment.
I will be happy when I meet my Mr Right, and you meet and marry your true dream guy, All of sudden Mr Right is no longer good for you, he has anger issues, I don't love him anymore.
You will be happy when you finally graduate from college and get your dream job, Years later after being employed in your dream company you found out that your boss is too bossie and your job is too demanding and stressful and you can't quit .
You will be happy, when you have a baby of your own,years later, you are with your baby in the midnight trying to make her sleep because she is crying and you can't sleep if she don't sleep then you found out how stressful motherhood is.
You will be happy when you get a brand new latest phone or car, finally bought it. After the novelty has worn off, you discover it is a gas guzzler notto mention that the repair bills are vesting up all your paychecks.
Happiness is a state of mind not an acquisition.
You can choose to be happy regardless of what you have and don't have.Appreciate the little you have and be grateful for what you have, counting our blessings regardless of that fact that life won't go the way we want but always have a solid conviction that more blessing will come your ways.
The moment you stop thinking that a person or possession you have can bring you true happiness you are setting yourself for less disappointments and by choosing the opposite, you are setting yourself for great disappointments.
Always live your life and be happy, Stay happy.
True happiness come from within .
What It Means To Be Single
A truly single person is one who is complete physically,emotionally,spiritually,and intellectually without dependence on Another person.
Dr Myles Monroe
In our generation today, been single is one of the difficult phase for teens,youths, young men and ladies and even married people.
Most people find it difficult to be their own person, they are always looking for someone to attach to, waiting for people's hiIndependencency, though some see it as been lonely which they don’t really enjoy.
Sometimes , The society make it seem like been single is not important and consequently seen as a taboo most especially for women. For we ladies, we were been raised in a society that teaches us we must attach ourselves to man for validation to have a voice, to be accepted, or to be seen as been relevant which I totally disagree with. I believe a woman should learn to be herself without carrying the baggage of dependency before marriage.
The word single is gotten from an old French (sengle, sangle meaning alone), from latin singulus ,a diminutive derived from a proto – indi- europen(sem meaning one,separate or individual) meaning , an individual person or thing rather than a pair or a group, Also means separated individual or person.
While, Single Life is often refer to someone who is not involved in any form of romantic relationship. In other words, it mean unmarried or not involved in a stable sexual relationship. To be single means to be able to individuate. Individuate is something you should learn when you are young and single. One of the reason why most young ladies and gentlemen tend to loss their in relationship is because they find it hard to individuate or to stand alone. To be a separated individual, get you a chance to find your voice,your temperaments, personality, to be yourself.
Things to learn when you are single
1) Independent
These is the freedom from dependency; exemption from reliance on, or control by others. There is a total difference between asking for help and been dependent. Most people, most especially the ladies rely on men for validation, they depends on men emotionally, financially and mentally which is very bad. As an individual you should learn to be yourself and depend on yourself for stability. Develop yourself all round so you don't have to be dependent on anybody for validation or reliance for any emotional or financial support. An example of someone who was completely independent was Jesus Christ andAdam. Adam was independent, he didn't depend on Eve for emotional,financial or mental stability. He was doing fine by himself before God decided to made Eve.
2) LOVE YOURSELF
For some reason, certain person on earth don't like themselves. They lack self love, which is the most important possession humans should have. The best thing to do for yourself in this life, is to love your
self Because even in the Bible, Jesus Christ make reference to loving yourself when He said"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment, And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour thyself" (22:37-39). That's means
1. for you to give love,you must first posses love.
2. For someone to love you, you
must first love yourself.
3.for you to love someone else ,you must first love yourself. To some people loving someone else is completely hard, these are quote for people who lack love.
When you love yourself it will be very easy to love someone else completely.
''Nemo DAT quod non ha bet'' one
cannot give what he does not have. Most people in this category, always have high tendency of losing themselves in toxic relationships ,they end up with partners who don't deserve them.
If you don’t love yourself, no one will. After all, the best relationship you can have is with yourself. Trust me, you can do fine by yourself.
3) solitude
This is state of being alone or being oneself. It can always be defined as having intimacy with yourself. Most people who practice solitude with themselves are more at advantages than those who don't. Funny how humans on earth don't really know their real self. They fake identity, lie to themselves and the rest of the world. Practising solitude at least twice a week is very healthy and good for self discovery because solitude is a journey for self discovery. Most people find it hard to be alone, they mistake alone for loneliness. They are constantly running from themselves,if you want to know yourself more practice solitude.
4) Individuation
This is the process of individuating or individualizing. It s the act of distinction of the individual from the general or universal.
The process of individuation is for unique self-identity, which is separate from that of any other individual, it is ongoing and can be considered both a goal and a lifelong process.
Carl Jung believed the process of individuation is an important life goal. In Jungian psychology, individuation describes a process of self-realization the discovery of one’s life purpose or what one believes to be the meaning of life. For example , According to Jungian psychology, when individuals lose touch with certain aspects of their selves, they may be able to reintegrate these aspects of their nature through individuation. Process of individuation is important for the development of a healthy identity and the personality, well functioning and formation of healthy relationships with others.
A person who does not adequately individuate may lack a clear sense of self and feel uncomfortable pursuing goals.
Feelings of depression and anxiety may result. Difficulty in individuating may also lead to increased dependence on others, challenges in romantic or professional relationships, poor decision-making skills, and a general a sense of not knowing who one is or what one wants from life.
5)KNOW YOUR VISION FOR LIFE
Nothing is as sad as two confuse people getting married. It is always heart breaking for someone who know his/her potential but then gets married to a confuse person,
the story don't always end well.
Your single stage is the time for you to know God plan for your life. Some human are still trying to figure God plan for there life,some are going anywhere life take them,
That's “tragic”. Know your purpose in life and try to figure out the reason you were created.
Being alone allows you to focus on yourself and discover your true potential.
Two sides of an individual
Most of our lives contain all sorts of impulses and potential behaviours, but our parents, society and religion reinforce some and discourage others. While it is good for us to learn certain behaviours in the process of growing up, the act of encouraging some and discourage the other creates within us all what psychology calls the SHADOW.
Regardless of the fact that our shadow are discourage, everyone is born with it. Every individual has a shadow(what some people called monster side) and angelic side, these two parts make you Essence.
Their is no one sided individual just like their is no one sided coin(is always two side). Within some people this personality don't exist simply because they have denied it expression but they live within us. These shadow side of us is always hiding away not form others but from our own self.
Sometimes, we are aware of our shadow side, and out of our fear of being propelled into acting in a ways that's we will regret, we consciously work at pushing down and controlling our unacceptable urges while sometimes, we are unaware of it.
The part you portray in your daily life,in your everyday decision,In what you do,defines you, define if you are a bad person or a good person. Only by owning our shadow we gain control over it, most especially when we are aware of it. You don't control it by suppressing it, but by respecting it, finding a constructive outlets for it, and sitting limits.
We become at peace and emerge with our shadow by conceding that there are parts of ourselves that we abhor, despise or deny; by acknowledging those parts, no matter how horrific they are, by seeing that we are still ourselves.
You may want to argue with me but is fine
Let me ask you a question, When people do bad things to you like really hurt you,what come to your mind?..
To me two thought.
One of them tells you to do good things,give you good advice and that's the angelic side talking. While,the other tell you to do bad and evil things, that's is the shadow (monster in you) talking. The decision you made, make you what you are.
If you ask me every side is important in some cases. Most times you need the good side to be a better person, to make a different,to make a change in the society because if everybody is bad, we are going to produce a bad society.
In the other hand you need the bad side when necessary for example self defense, even the Bible say '' get angry but sin not ''. You have to be at peace with both side not to go mental nut.
I don't really believe in going with one side (the shadow or the angelic side).To me both sides are important. Use your two sides wisely and when necessary...
Depression and how to cope/ deal with it.
Depression has become a common problem nowadays, which has resulted in suicide in some cases and lack of happiness. He's a silent assassin.
Million of people are living with depression. Some knows they are depressed some don't know.
**Definition of depression**
Depression is a serious medical illness or disorder that causes an abnormal feeling of sadness, emptiness, and loss of interest.
**Causes of Depression**?
The death or loss of a loved one,
Stress can be a source of depression.
Abuse (verbal, sexual or physical) in or outside the home.
Could be genetics (biological causes).You're likely to get depressed if someone in your family has it like your dad, mom. Depression is just like happiness, it's genetic.
Factors such as poverty, unemployment, negative family background can lead to depression.
**Stages of depression**
Depression has stages
Denial and Isolation ;
are normally short-term when related to depression. The feelings of extreme sadness can be hard to ignore. But patients still ignore the issue, often believing that if there is a problem, they will just get over it.
When denial wears off, anger sets in because you realize you cannot overcome feelings of depression and you are even angry with the world.
Bargaining ;
happens when depression takes on its own life and reveals horrible things about yourself. You try to negotiate away thoughts created by depression and replace them with positivity.
Depression creates a sensation of isolation as if you are lost in the wilderness with no direction.
The final stage is acceptance, which means you have finally made peace with the reality of your mental illness.
**Symptoms of Depression**
Excessive sleepiness or insomnia
Petulance
Less interest in pastimes that were once enjoyable
Hopelessness
Preoccupation with suicide, death, or suicide attempts
In very serious cases, psychotic symptoms like hallucinations or delusions
Inability to care for oneself, characterized by trouble bathing, eating, or fulfilling work or family obligations
**How to handle depression**?
Make new hobbies or make yourself busy with something.
The best way to overcome depression is get yourself busy with things you love, in that way you may divert your attention from what make you depressed into the activities of the day. You can enroll in for cooking course, or go running, if you're alone, this will worsen depression.
Channel all the energy you have inside to do something right, something you love to do: write, cook, sing, run, dance.
Focus on the positive and happy memory. Concentrating negative memory will make you more depressed , simply try to concentrate on the happy moment.
Find the root of your pain or depression. You should try to pinpoint the reason you are in that state of mind.
Then, talk to someone about it or write them down (express yourself , your pains, and your fear). Take action not to let yourself depress anymore
Try to move on
Exercise.
Yes, exercise has helped most people cope with depression. Results show that people who do exercise regularly are more free from depression than people who do not.
The Heart You Once Broke
The heart you once broke births an emotionally unhealthy person.
In our different lives, we as humans have undeniably gone through a lot of things which includes the bad phases of life.
And in all of this pain and misery some people have healed while some haven't, some have scars while some don't admits all these we have people who still have fresh wounds and are broken to the core with barely enough strength to continue..
A quick disclaimer, I know this may not be healthy for certain people state of mind and talking about their wound might cause them to focus more on the pain and sorrow but it isn't my intention but instead this is to help us grow out of the pain..
1) One thing you should know about life is that it has seasons; and it comes and go. Changes happens whether or not you embrace it which will also determine if you have a successful outcome or not..
2) Life don't always turn out the way you plan, and these moments helps us discover our potential and what we are truly made of.
3) Situations and people are co-factors to leave you disoriented and hurt, bundled with painful wounds but note that nothing outside eternity last forever except God's love.. Always have it in mind that no matter the situation or problems , it is going to be okay.
“You go dey alright” as I love to say .
The storm and darkness you see now will fade off with a clear clear sky open to you
If only we agree to let God take the lead and things will definitely be alright..
Things you do for self- healing:
* Talk to someone
It could be a friends, family, therapist or anybody ready to listen and give you advice. we all need someone to lean on and talking and having a good listener at the same time is a natural pain killer .
* self- help books
There are thousands of books out there that's has been written by people who as been through what you are going through.
Going through their survival journey can inspire you for growth and acceptance of healing.
Let go, forgive
This is usually hard to crack for broken people, because letting the one who hurt you walk free can be devastating but you must understand that forgiveness is a first step to healing..
* You need God..
Let God make you whole . As the adage says doctor only treat but God heals.
Same also for therapists or friends, they can only talk and give advice but God heals and makes whole.
**Signs of Emotional unhealthy traits**
* Trust issues
* Anxieties
* Addiction
*Dysfunctional behaviour
*Depression
*phobias
*Lack of self- discipline
*Selfishness
* Pleasure seeking mentaily
*Living in a dream or fanasty world
*Irresponsibility
*Disregard to consequences of behavior
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