7 Signs of Toxic Relationship that 90% of People Don't Know
What is a Toxic Relationship
Are you in a healthy relationship or a toxic relationship? You don't even know what your relationship status is.
Healthy relationships and toxic relationships are the complete opposite. A drug can save a person and a drug(poison) can kill a person.
Just like that in a healthy relationship, everything looks fine, you may have had a few fights or disagreements with your partner.
But generally, you both solved it by decision together and openly talk about the problem that arises. And genuinely enjoy each other company.
But in a toxic relationship, it's completely different. You might feel unhappy after spending time together with your partner.
You are still in love with your partner, but your relationship will no longer feel enjoyable. You can't seem to stop fighting over some minor problems.
You might start to worry about seeing them, instead of looking forward to seeing them as you did in the beginning.
This might sound crazy but love should not be the reason to stay in a relationship. You love them but still, you don't want to see them.
You get it right? Some signs prove you are in a toxic relationship.
Signs of Toxic Relationship You Should Check Out
You might not always find it easy to notice when you are in a toxic relationship. So being aware of a toxic relationship is vital to protecting from heartbreak.
Not all toxic relationship is easy to leave, there may be something that holds you back from leaving your partner.
So if you are aware that you are in a toxic relationship it will make it easier to claim back your power. The relationship that involves physical or verbal abuse are toxic but there are other signs of toxic relationships.
Overlooking Your Needs
Going along with whatever your partner wants to do even if it's going against your desire or comfort zone is a sure sign of a toxic relationship says clinical psychologist Catalina Lawsin, PhD.
We all have important needs in daily life, whether it's love, sex, affection, or appreciation. Everybody has different needs in our life.
Whenever you try to talk about your need, it ends up in a fight or another empty promise, jealousy, insecurity or madness so you bury it in your heart and it keeps being overlooked.
If these things continuously happening in your relationship, it's indeed toxic. So be aware of this.
Feel Bad to be in a Relationship
Every time you look at the happy couple, you think why couldn't I have that sort of relationship?
Well, it can but you have to clear the road for that. You can't walk barefoot on a road with needles.
Leaving a relationship is never an easy thing, but staying in the relationship that you don't want to make it toxic.
No Effort in Your Relationship
Being in a relationship doesn't mean there is an investment or effort made in that relationship.
When there is no effort to love you or spend time together or share important information with you means that the relationship stops giving and taking too much.
If things go on like this, then you are in a toxic relationship. Because your partner makes no effort to care about you.
Too Much Jealousy or Envy
It's perfectly fine if feel envious of your partner from time to time but too much envy keeps you thinking positively about your partner's success.
Same as envious, jealousy is also fine because it is natural human emotion. But too much jealousy leads to mistrust of your partner, and it can erode your healthy relationship.
Well, some sort of people describes it as affection and also call it possessiveness. And that if their partner isn't jealous they say that their partner doesn't love them.
Well, there is a limit to being jealous and envying your partner. Too much will erode your relationship.
Keeping Score Cards
Hey, what the heck is the scorecard?.
If both of you keep blaming each other for their past mistakes, it is called a Score Card.
The biggest human unchangeable behaviour is making mistakes in their life. No human is perfect. The perfect person doesn't exist in reality, well they exist in the manga though.
A scorecard is a double-edged sword, not only do you neglect the current problem by focusing on past mistakes and problems but you build the bitter and guilt feeling from the past to manipulate your partner.
If this goes on long enough, rather than solving the problem, you spend your time trying to prove that you're more innocent than the other.
If this goes on you both started to feel unhappy about your relationship life. And it will become a toxic relationship.
Lack of Support
Healthy relationships are based on a mutual desire to see each other succeed in their life. In a healthy relationship, you feel happy if your partner succeeds.
But in a toxic relationship, everything feels competitive. When your partner is successful instead of feeling happy you feel like you're losing something.
You don't feel supported or encouraged and you can't show them for you at the important event. You also feel that your interest does not matter to them anymore.
Standing on the Eggshells
Whenever you face a problem, you will worry about bringing up the problem to your partner will cause extreme tension.
So you end up keeping everything to yourself and you became a burden to yourself.
It became toxic. So beware about your relationship status.
If you are in Toxic Relationship I hope you will resolve it soon and have a happy life.
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