6 Things You Should Talk About in Your First Date
First dates can be fun, exciting and uncomfortable. Most of them pass their time in silence. You have a topic to talk about but don't know if it ok to talk about this.
First dates are like an interview process, you just have to surf on the surface. Well if both of you are comfortable with the conversation, it's OK to talk about it.
For those who don't know what to talk about, let me give you some pointers in this article.
Admit you are a little nervous
Just admit that there is no reason to feel ashamed. Because more likely your date will admit to being a bit nervous as well.
Because this will help you to relieve some pressure and create a mutual smile. After your date is a human also.
If both of you feel awkward and stay silent for a minute that's the right time to admit that you are nervous.
It will also help to break the silence and shyness between you and your date.
Talk about their hometown
Well, you admit you are nervous, and you both exchange mutual smiles. But your date still looks uncomfortable.
So let's make your date a little comfortable with you. Are you trying to talk about family?.
No, wait before talking about their family, let's talk about their hometown. Like where did they grow up?.
You must know about your date's hometown and talk about it. Right or wrong just tell her that you heard about it. But if it's not a good thing forget that don't say bad stuff about their hometown.
Talk about their Family
As you talk about their hometown, your date gets a little comfortable with you. Now let's talk about their family.
You may figure out if your date is close to their family or not while talking about their hometown.
Some people are very close to their families, whether it's their kids or siblings or parents.
If they have a strong connection without any tragedy well you can talk about it.
But if you find out that they faced a tragic situation or they lose their family recently. Just say "I'm Sorry" and order some coffee or food to divert their attention.
It's your first date let's be happy OK?.
Talk about Hobby
This is where you define who you are. Mostly your hobby defines what kind of person you are in your free time.
And this also creates opportunities for you and your date to get to know each other.
Talking about a hobby may look just casual talk, but this helps your date to know more about you and it also helps you to know more about your date.
Try to find something common here. Do they like Hiking or Art Exhibitions or Gaming?. Like if you both have gaming in common, you may play with her later or even the day after.
Ask about What they are Good at
We are doing Hobbies for passing time, but sometimes hobbies create a skill. Sometimes hobbies may be the main reason to manifest your skill.
Let's say you write every day, after some years that will be your skills. Because you do that every day, step by step you create a skill without your knowledge.
We all have something we are good at or we are proud of. So asking like "What you are good at? What do you do to keep growing in your writing career?".
With this, you can see how much responsibility they take for life. And you can also find "Do they see themselves as someone who's creating their life or waiting for it to show up?".
Ask about Close Friends
Just like you talk about your date's family, ask about their friends. Ask that they are still in touch with their childhood friends.
This may be a great conversation to talk about. Well for some people life gets in the way, so they can't be close to childhood friends.
Everyone has a separate life, right?. If they lose their friend in any incident like deceased, leave the topic.
Because that may cause a distasteful situation on your first date.
Don't Worry If things Don't Go as You Planned
Don't sweat it, because if life goes as you planned, there will be no fun.
"Chances are, you’ll be able to fill the silence on a first date purely by picking up on something they’ve said, relating it to an anecdote or commenting on it in some way," shares Karia.
So have a great first date.
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