Is it safe to be vulnerable around your lady?

29 March 2022

This debate is one as old as time. Women say they want us to be vulnerable around them but I am not entirely sure they want that. I will tell you why I think so in a minute but check this..

So this evening I was surfing the web like I always do looking for some materials and watching random videos when I suddenly came across this video.

It was an online podcast where the host invited two women and two men for a conversation about relationships and all that. He asked a particular interesting question about vulnerability which he directed to the men.

One of the men seated at this interview made a point about women thinking that they want men to show vulnerability but at the end of the day once a man shows a certain part of his life to a woman she looses interest in him fast.

He even went further to tell a story about his friend who cried in front of his girlfriend when he had lost a huge investment. He then said that they broke up some months later and he found that one of the reasons for the break up was the fact that after that incident she started seeing him differently like a weaker version of his real self.

He said women would always go for safety and security( either physically, emotionally or financially)and if they feel like you can not provide them with that because you are unsure of certain things then there is a big chance of them leaving the relationship.

I stumbled on another video where a man talked about showing and telling a woman you love her. He said “not to tell her those words” and even if you have to tell her not to always show it. Why? It keeps them guessing trying to figure out if you really love them or not and that if you can’t manage to do that to a woman then you can keep her for as long as you want.

My ladies is this true ?

Personally, I have had a few experiences of my own with ladies. I found out that every time I am early to show a lady that I care about her or I tell her how I feel about her.. she quickly changes her attitude towards me. It is almost like she was more attracted to me when she wasn’t sure about my feelings for her.…

…and now that she is it is like there is no mystery to me, she is no longer curious. Which made me think one thing; if just showing her I truly like her can make her be less attracted to me just imagine what crying in front of her would do to me.

Again I am not against men showing vulnerability towards women neither do I totally advice you should do it. I think every relationship is different and every human being is different. The girls in the podcast-interview thing I spoke about earlier tried to make a point that they are even more attracted to vulnerable men because women like to protect their men but hey who knows.

i spoke to Temi

She said that she prefer her men vulnerable around her because it shows her that she is special to them. She added that she is knows that a lot of men keep things to theirselves most times and that if they shared it with anyone it means that person means a lot to them.

Well Temi is not wrong .. I for one only share certain information with people I really care about. Maybe some women find vulnerability attractive and some others maybe not so much my ultimate advice is know your spouse and know what they are like if you feel like your lady can handle you being vulnerable around her then be that and if you feel like her views about you would change then please don’t be vulnerable around her. You can communicate your feelings to her and just tell you would figure it out because at the end of the day communication is key or you can even find a silent place to work out all your feelings before showing your face in front of her.

That is just my advice what do you think ? Do you think we should be more vulnerable in our relationships? Do you think vulnerability in men is attractive? Ladies let me see you in the comment section.. let me know what you think..

Thank you for reading ❤️✍️.

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