Too Much Love Will Kill You

Disclaimer! This is not a song. This is about the Love story of my niece who falls deeply inlove with a guy.

My niece grew up without a mom taking good care of her. She and her sister was left my their father at the province where they grew up, because their father needs to work at manila.

Being left there, she wasn't feel the love of her relatives and sometime they are being mistreated. When their father knew about their situation he got them, and they lived together in Manila.

They rented a small house where they can stay. Their father gave everything they want. They was sent to school to finished their studies. But life isn't easy for them. Thier father was a shoe maker. His wage can't supply their daily necessities plus their study, their house rent, the bills for electricity and water supply. But despite that their father gave his everything to sustained what their needs are. My niece on the other hand, their a blind eye of her father's hardship to support them. She request any luxury she wants. Its because of her jealousy to her schoolmates and friends. Whatever she saw with them, she want it too.

One day, she developed an infatuation with a boy. She confessed her feelings but unfortunately she was rejected because of her curly hair. Devastated with her confession, she told her father that she want to got a rebond. She want to show go the boy that she changed. Her father during that time has no money. Upon know it, she threatened her father that she will run away from home if he didn't follow what she wants. Afraid that she will really do it, her father find a money and did what she wants.

After taking a rebond, the boy still doesn't like her.

After sometime, she decided to learned on how to play guitar. Without second thought she told her father that she wants a guitar. And same thing happened if he won't gave want she wants.

Having a hard time supporting their needs, their father decided to sent them here in bicol, while he was left behind to continue working in Manila to support them.

They were taking care of their grandmother, her father's mother. At first they are okay, until their grandmother can't my niece attitude. She continue to buy her luxury, make up and other cosmetics. Her grandmother got angry to her because she's buying anything instead of what they need at home. She was slapped by her grandmother because of that arguments. From then on, she eloped.

My mother on the other hand, was concerned about what might happen to her. She let her stay at our house and called her father to have a conversation with her mother, and so he did. Their conversation led to my niece staying at our house because her grandmother don't want to see her anymore.

She stayed at us while studying. During her stay, I was in Manila working. But my siblings told me about her behaviour. My mother lives in mountain and only my siblings are staying in the house. They told me that my niece will tell my mother that she will be late coming home because of some school projects. But unfortunately is was a lie.

During the time that she told my mother of school projects, she was actually with her boyfriend whom she met because of her friend. Her boyfriend was her friends brother.

After knowing it, my mother talked to her and said not do to it again. That if she wants to see his boyfriend, he can visit at our home. To avoide the possible outcome if they continue secretly seeing each other. In other words their relationship are legal and her father knows it too.

Their relationship continue and went well, until one day, she told my mother that she will going to lived in her boyfriend's house. After what she told my mother immediately called her father. After a long conversation, they decided to follow her decision. Why? Because same as before, he will threatened her father if he object. And so they lived together.

Like any other relationship, their relationship didn't smooth. They argued multiple times because of misunderstanding.

Suddenly, we saw her Facebook status about she wanted to die and do anything to kill herself. It lasted for a month. When we asked her sister about what's happening to her, she told us that her ate is acting strange because her boyfriend went to Manila to work. They have an argument about it. She didn't want her boyfriend go anywhere. That she will die if he leave her.

Her boyfriend only want is to find a job to support her and for their future. The same thing she did to her father, she threatened her boyfriend too, that she will hang herself or drink chlorine. She even took a selfie of her pale face.

Her sister told as that she actually bought a rope to hang herself. She texted her sister to go home because she will actuallu hang herself. When her sister arrived she was actually doing it. With her sister's adrenaline rush, she was pulled. They both end up crying.

When we went back home in bicol, she told us her love story. Everything since the beginning. Repeatedly and without ending. She told us that her boyfriend is as handsome as Cha Eun Woo, a korean singer/idol and actor. She told us all her known adjective to boost his oh-so-handsome-boyfriend.

One day, she went to out house crying. We asked her what happened. She told us that her boyfriend is cheating on her, chatting different girls. We advised her what she needs to do. That she should break up with him. She refused because she will die if they broke up. And so we stop.

We observed her boyfriends behaviour and treatment towards her. And we therefore conclude that her boyfriend doesn't care anymore. She is the one working to her boyfriends family, while her boyfriend and family is busily idling at their house waiting for her to feed them. Sometimes her boyfriend went anywhere riding his bicycle and coming home late. My niece was being mistreated by her boyfriends sisters. Still she won't leave and broke up with him because she will die. She told us that just thinking about breaking up with her boyfriends suffocates her. She felt that she can't breathe.

Countless of advice where being thrown to her by us and by other people but its no used. So we give up and let her do want she wants and see how long she can able to handle it. We care but she didn't see it because she is blinded by her love.

She is just 20 years old and she have a long journey and a bright future. Why trap and hold herself in a relationship that still unsure? She is sacrificing her future. She stop going to school and started working just to support her boyfriend's family. She didn't even think of her fathers sacrifices.

How can someone say they will die if they were left my his/her boyfriend/girlfriend? Did they ever realized that they lived longer before knowing that someone. My niece live for 20 years and yet she is saying that she can't live without him?

What do you think? I think my niece is a masochist. She was hurt many times but still accept him with love.

Is this what love is? Is this how love was?

Thanks for reading!

June 3, 2021