Tips to be more Likeable
It's not about what you say, is about how you listen.
A lot of people are constantly scratching their brains day to day thinking about what witty remark they're gonna make with their coworkers, what topics of conversation they are going to talk about and how they'll impress that date in the evening, all with the intent of being more likeable to people. However, what most people don't realize is that the key to really be someone whose company everyone enjoys, you don't have to focus on what you say, though in the other person and how what you do makes them feel. From simple things like looking them right and the eye and making them questions about themselves, this article will present you with little tips that you can apply to your conversations so you can make better impressions upon people and become a more charismatic person, Let's begin:
1.- Look people at the eye
This might seem pretty obvious for some of us, though is something we have to constantly remember ourselves in order to make the other person feel they are validated and listened to. By making eye contact since the first moment you'll present yourself as someone confident and able to pay attention to others. At first It might be a little hard to pick upon, struggling to find the balance of how much is too much and how little is too little, though with enough interactions, you'll quickly get the grip of It.
2.- Ask them Questions about themselves and pay attention
This is pretty important when It comes to knowing someone as to being more likeable to them. By asking people about different things about themselves you'll make them feel like they are special, contributing with a greater sense of rapport and like they're being listened to. Care about someone's life is something that most of the times you can't fake and even If you do it you'll find yourself bored and in contempt because you're hiding your true personality, so better think that every person's a different world of stories.
3.- Relaxed Body Language
Most people approach conversations all closed, like they were facing something painful to them. In this way, they don't realize that they are conveying to others that they are portraying to others that they find themselves uncomfortable with the presence of others, emotion that passes on to the other person, leaving them with a sense of uneasiness over the conversation. To get yourself to relax in social situations might be hard at first If you're not accustomed to them, though as anything, with gradual exposure you'll surely become looser and looser, to the point that you can engage other people without problem.
I hope that with this article I could have provided you with some information regarding how to become more likeable, explaining some simple strategies that can not only improve the way you make others feel when they are around you, though make conversations much more dynamic and not one sided. Thank you for your support!
Obviously, I am not a conversationalist, I'm more than a listener not a talker lol.