Make them know when they're doing good

Have you ever lashed out at someone for not doing something as good enough as they should have?. Well, you surely might have encountered a lot of problems with that, from having to hear them rant about the conditions in which they were performing, shifting the blame to others to even getting a resentful yes that only guaranteed that the conduct will repeat Itself again. Don't get me wrong, I consider punishment with a minimum amount of force (Not confusing force with violence, as It is never the answer) a great way to disencourage any bad habit or negatively consequential act, though what I'm trying to say is that If you just condemn what is wrong and don't see what It's right you will take away the motivation you were trying to impose in the first place. That's why paying attention to things that others did that you think were benefitial can work wonders in getting to them to repeat that again, and precisely why in this article I will talk more about the method of reinforcing positive behaviour, all so you can implement It in your life and get a better response. Let's begin:

What's Positive Reinforcement?

As I have pointed before, It is the act of taking notes of what a person did to get a favourable outcome that could even benefitted you and telling them about It and how specifically they did It. An example of this might be seem in something so trivial as your wife/husband/mom/dad or any significant one cooking a particular food that you found really tasty. Well, the first thing would be to recognize why It is so good: Maybe the meat was well seasoned or the rice was cooked to a contexture you really like. Then, It will be as easy as telling him/her that you really liked how they did that specific part of the plate and how It led to a great recipe.

Now that we know what positive reinforcement is, we can begin to talk about why It works so good and how It benefits you with a set of points:

Makes the other person's efforts feel validated:

For you something so little as complimenting another person's action might be somethin trivial, though for them It might mean the whole world. It can make them feel much more appreciated and confident in what they do, giving them an extra source of motivation for advancing in their craft. That's why It works so well for parents to give their kids a particular reward after they perform well at something that they can feel proud of, as It can make sure that It will give them more drive to continue.

Nothing like a compliment:

By pointing to others sense of self importance you will create a great deal of friendships and you'll even strenghten the ones you already have, making you a presence that will make the other side feel secure, competent, and surely one greatly welcomed the next time, so better make sure to point at the good things sincerely.

I hope that this article could have been of benefit to you, making you see why It is so good to reinforce those conducts that you enjoy and want to be repeated, making progress an unavoidable fact when both parties want to perform and know where they're doing good. Thank you for your support and good luck!