A quick question for everyone, if you had a fight with your lover or someone who is very close to you such as your family, who is the first one who break the silence to open up a conversation to solve the matter.
For some reason even if we are so close to the person we had conflict with, breaking the silence is a difficult thing to execute because for some reason again we feel shy about it or we don't have the enough courage to do it. Because they said that whoever break the silence first is very fragile inside and out especially when it comes to lover's fight.
Whoever buzz the button will be branded as fragile or marupok according to the google translation haha. Is that true that the reason why a person buzz first is that he/she is fragile? I don't think that's the real reason behind it but it may be a part of it.
What if your lover has an affair to your bestfriend, what will you do after having a fight? Will you do the buzzing just because you are marupok and will not scold your parter for doing that disgusting thing between your bestfriend?
In my opinion, if you're the one who did the bad thing you may do the first move in breaking the silence between your partner but if your partner did it, don't show your fragile side just because he/she said "I love you forever and ever. You're my only one with matching hugs,kisses,flowers and chocolates."
Huhu. I knew a lot of girls who are very fragile when it comes to their lover even if he did something taboo during their relationship and guest what's the result in the end. They broke up because their guys just did the same thing over and over again.
It's okay to be fragile once in a while in a relationship but make sure that the problem is solve so that you'll not regret it later on. That you will cry over the guy or over a girl. Don't eat for a week over your partner aww. Don't ruin your body just because you lost a temporary relationship with the wrong guy or girl.
When it comes to your family, it's a different matter already and it's not the same with the scenario above. Your family is your last foundation to run to when the sky decided to strike you a lightning. No matter what you can't lose them. They are your roots and they are the reason why you will bear a lot of good fruits later on in your journey.
When there's a conflict between you and your parents, please always do the initiative of breaking the silence first even if you did the wrong thing or vice versa. By doing so is your showing a respect to them as their son or daughter.
Some problems between the parents and the child may varry from one to another but what can I say is do the same thing. Your the one who can understand the situation better. Maybe our parents are just getting old and tired of the process already.
They have less years to live than us so make peace with them and don't wait the time where you can make peace with them when they are already in a coffin, sleeping forever.
No matter what you say to them, your regrets about what happened before, they can't hear it anymore. They can't respond to you anymore with the words "Ok lang yun anak". You can't hug them anymore or to make them feel that they are important to you. In other words, IT'S TOO LATE ALREADY. Don't wait for that day to come.
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When we had fight with my parents I always do the initiative whether if it's my fault or not. I don't want to wait for that day. It scares me to the bone when I lose them without making up with them. My heart will be filled with regret and I don't want that. I hope you're the same.
Lowering my pride is not a big deal if I can see the result will be good to all of us. Pride sometimes can hinder us to make the right call in each situations we have to weigh something. I hope you can lower your's too for the sake of peace.
Author's note
Breaking the silence may be hard depending on the problem but always keep in your mind to always choose what best and make sure your decision will not make you regret what you did.
When it comes to our parents, always build up the courage to make the first move. I'm sure you don't want to happen the things I said above. Don't let your hate dominate you to the point of hurting those people who truly cares for you. Peace to you all and thanks for being with me till this part of my article.See you again next time.
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Ako din po ang nagbebreak ng silence kapag may tampuhan po kami ng parent ko. Same din po kapag may tampuhan kami ng mga friends ako po talaga ang unang gagawang paraan para maayos ang situation dahil ayoko po na tumagal at mga hidwaan at tampuhan dahil sobrang bigat po sa feeling kaya kahit ako po ang magbreak ng silence kahit di ako ang may kasalanan ay ayos lang po.