Love or Family

Before you choose your decision of one another, please be prudent and wise without any regrets before you proceed in the next chapter of your life as a singular.

Let me lay down some points which may assist you in your perception if you are going against your parents and mentioned below,

First of all, your parents will never desert you regardless of you are but your life partner can and depending on how much acceptance the person has got for you. If you and your partner have been through plenty of difficulties and being supportive of each other in every case, then, it acts as a positive plausible point for them to trust and accept it.

Since your parents are against your chosen life partner, you do possess every right to know the reasons behind through a comprehensive level headed discussion which may require more than once with patience and won't be easy. The reason why I spoke this point, they have brought you up this far in life, you need to comprehend their standpoint too before you make a decision in the end.

Try to be a very good listener and don't snub to counter their points, otherwise, it may backfire you.

Parents do have a tendency to be over-cautious and obstinate with certain points to have them processed in their minds which requires some time to be digested. Never go overboard unnecessarily and speak point - point without faltering.

On to the opting the side of your lover, I am providing the suggestive points on your contemplative thoughts that may assist here too,

How long have you known each other well?

How far, you both are honest with your points of loving each other?

What exactly is the most striking point about you and your lover to get tethered and stand on common ground to resolve the issues in the upcoming future that lies ahead?

Evidently, be it arranged or a love marriage, lovers spat does occur from time - time, are you both capable of being receptive and forgiving towards each other to resolve the discord within a day’s time?

What draws you both in terms of the attraction with respect to humanity?

Lastly, why are questioning your love for each other and allowing your fear to monopolize your perception if the life partner you have chosen is the right one?

Upon answering these questions, you have to judge for yourself, not me.

Comparatively speaking, between love or arranged marriage, there’s hardly a difference in this modern era as parents have gradually started to accept love marriages despite their backward retaliating minds in this everchanging life at present.

However, the sole decision lies on the singulars to have a choice of their own partners where the parent’s opinion is rendered obsolete in the end. Otherwise, you won't find a plethora of singles waiting in line to get married after crossing a certain age bracket.

Besides, I am no parent or singular to tell anyone what's right or wrong for one’s life. It's your life to see, how to pave your chosen path and evolve from your choices as I did the same for myself and the parent’s job is to oversee their children's marriage and not overriding the decisions.

One last thing, life is a series of difficult choices at times, if you seek to hesitate and overthink, it's all over before you know it as I am sharing this vital knowledge with you.

Learn to wield your life experiences from the wisdom you acquired from your journey and let the heart guide you the way that you seek the most to be decisive in your life. In other words, you are the author of your book who is writing these chapters of your life and I am just a random reader to see the content of how you triumphed to achieve your feats.

If any difficulty arises from the parent's side, with all due respect, ask them in a polite manner, ”how long can you keep protecting me from the risk if I don't learn anything out of my own will from the decisions I make for myself?”

Hence, this may sting a bit in emotions at first, that’s the core reality after being independent to protect one’s life. Besides, I humbly request them to be proud of it instead.

Well, if the love is genuine between you both, I sense no issues instead learn to confront first hand and overcome as one.

I wish you the best in your life on any path, you opt for and may the force be with you.