Mommy duties and roles!

I am happy to celebrate about 12 years of being a single mom. I have to admit, at the starting point of my journey, having a baby was something I welcome but… clueless! Yes right, clueless! Responsibility wise, yes, I know… I have to keep the baby healthy, not stressed, well feed & cloth, keep him warm and just about anything about the baby. Honestly, I really have no idea of what I was about to get myself into.

Clueless as I was, I sought help from Baby Centers as I was rearing my baby. Oh! The anxiousness and impatience were really exhausting and not to mention our physical state was very much compromised especially when expecting. Those were the days. I even envy how my hubby was so relaxed, excited and calm. While I was worrying so much on how to react if the baby cried, he just simply said to puff in the milk and its all settled in. wow! So simple, but that was him, I was me! But thank God, everything went in place. I grew as a mom with some guidance.

Babies cries for different reason but most common is hungry. Guess, I learned this as I grow along. Next is a sign that something aches, especially the tummy. After drinking milk and forget to burp, really makes a difference. Crying also indicates its time to change because the diaper is already full or poo. Hmm, it was a lot for me – a lot of guessing game for me. Then of course, they easily get irritated or sick especially with the communicable diseases that’s why vaccines should also be updated. I was even clueless as how and when to go to the hospital, and I was just glad that their pedias were such blessings. Now, they are all grown up! I thought, things are over but it was just the start. Moms role actually piled up the more. From making sure they eat on time, learn to poo on their own and so much more. Moms, well, me personally taught my kids reading and writing. It is the greatest gift we can ever give our kids. Trust me! Why? It all start from there, the moment they learned how to read, everything follows. Not that I knew that but my eldest actually told me that with our conversation when he was 9, -sex conversation. He said I taught him sex! Naturally I was all furious because I don’t even have a boyfriend and I have no porn at home, and me teaching him sex? My 1st reaction. But lo! “Mommy, you taught me how to read!” He explained. Me, surprised… So, he gets to accuse me because of that. Well, I was relieved because I finally have to rest my worries on sex educating my sons… hahaha!

Mommy duties doesn’t stop even if they are older. It feels like I have to teach them more about life and whats there. Like building their coping mechanism and confidence because no one else will be able to do that but us, confidently as they grow. Its not just about developing their skills and talents, and enhance it as they grow. But, we have to be engaged in the things they do. Like play, and skills development where we can actually teach them cooking and budgeting, which is really for me is important because it does make a lot of difference if they know how to spend their money. And teach them too to save & earn because it will be usefully by the time they will lose us. Then it will really address that usual worries us moms had “what happens to them when we die?”. Aside from that, we get to teach them too reasoning skills and ethics, valuable when they grow and interact with the world. Its not at all full proof, I am merely teaching them the basic there is to learn and the priorities they should take on. Like caring for each other, especially when im gone.

So far, I am confident that building them up as they grow will actually ensure they will survive the world on their own. Now, I can’t help but appreciate why my husband died on me years ago! It is because I can have my way on them and really teach them life skills that will help them as they grow to adulthood. More over, kuya is still at school despite his low grades, unlike his father who was expelled just about any school he attended. This was a change and I love it. Thank u for your time and reading. God bless.

March 18, 2022
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