In a Cancerous World of Ours 5
Mama
Diagnosed with breast cancer before hubby died 2010. It was expected, since she was the last of the “tres marias”. The lump was huge, almost like a growing breast inside her full-grown breast. And there was another, Gall stones, about a size of a 1peso Philippine coin.
Gall Stone
She was complaining a lot so she got herself an xray which a gall-stone was seen that is about a size of a peso on her abdomen. She told our family doctor she doesn’t want to be operated on. Argued with the doctor that she said she will try other alternative and the doctor agreed and gave her 1 month for it to vanish, else operation.
Cancer
Same, operation is a must then chemo.
Treatment
· Gall Stone. Somebody told her, an apple a day. True indeed, she took it to heart and an apple a day, especially green. Oh the apple. Each day mama would torture, mutilate an apple. She ground it, blended it, chopped it. Different execution everyday just not to make it boring in eating an apple everyday? Then the 5 lime daily regimen. One month passed and whola, the gall stone disappeared. This was resolved.
· Cancer. Mama opted for Homeopathy because she really doesn’t want to be operated again. Went 6 months to 2 years, she was healed.
Support
· Moral support. My siblings we very adamant that she should be operated on. But mama refuses. Papa was basically absent, hayst! Don’t ever bother to ask anymore. So mama hopes and hides under my care. All knowing that she is untouchable whenever she seeks shelter under my care. Nobody really dares, not even my father. But this has created dispute on my work place since this was not acceptable to my manager, granting of course I have single siblings, “you shouldn’t be obligated”, she said. But hey! You’re talking about my mom, weeks after I quit –found another job.
· Financial support. It’s all moms. Papa? Really none. Homeopathy treatment was expensive. And mama sold her properties just for cash to be available for her treatment. And it actually paved good results, cancer gone!
Family
Honestly? Ha! This is where things got complicated. My stand is always respect the individual perspective. Anyway none of them really supported her, physically. Not even presence, because I was already there. They all just whine and insisted to the point of thinking it was beneficial for me because mama will give me allowance for accompanying her. They whine because homeopathy has unspoken and no approved therapeutic effects. Healing was not guaranteed they say.
Oh hell for the other reason, good if it was true but I bore the expenses especially when she runs out of money. When she wants to eat nice food and no money, I provide. They think? Wow! It is more detrimental for my budget, it already hit my employment badly. To really think I am not the favorite and still. Family.
In the end of all these, what matters the most is how much u care and helped. It doesn't matter how big or small that mere presence is more than enough for a relief. Even good thoughts matters, especially holding mamas hand in a moment of fear and uncertainty. After all we live our lives according to how we want it to be. Important thing is mama was not in pain and was healing? Don't u think? Money is just money OK! It can always be earned. But life, if lost is really lost. U can't turn back time and rewind. We cease that moment by acting on the present, today, not be occupied with tomorrow. That's why it is often regrettable when reached tomorrow because we failed to do what is necessary today. When we can still say hi to each other and do something really nice. We really need to appreciate the little things in life, no matter how small, tiny, puny it is because like I said, once gone - gone! Can't bring back the dead!
Resulotion?
All cancer patients has their own resolve. They need someone they can count on whenever and understand its horrors since its not just physically tormenting but spiritually and mentally too,-not bother them with all the unnecessary buderns. The thought of dying and to think of the true physical pain. We can only help alleviate, then let's do it and make it happen until time will tell.
Anyway who knows what will happen in the future? I could have it but importantly I want to be able to make my own decisions and be respected and cared for. We all die anyway, it's only a matter in time.
November 8, 2021Thank u so much for reading and God bless.
