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Don't be "nothing" I did not entitle this article in order to give you advice. I don’t have the amazing power to convince you to believe in something if you are not motivated enough. I'm not highly motivated either and I sometimes look for excuses to avoid something I need to do. Sometimes I would rather agree to remain silent than waste my energy. But every time we ignore the criticism that is directed at us, we put ourselves in a position to be “nothing”. Aristotle said a long time ago that the best way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, to do nothing, and to be nothing. But I am not sure If I want to be "nothing". Receiving negative feedback is not easy at all. The initial reaction of most people who recieve negative feedback will probably be negative. Everyone tries to defend their views without thinking much about understanding criticism and using it to improve themselves. Negative feedback does not necessarily provoke a negative reaction. On the contrary, negative feedback should not be a "no" in our lives, but a big "yes", an unique opportunity to confront opposing opinions whose understanding in the right way can improve our work. If we don't like other people's opinions, we can always have our own. This seems simple. We are not "nothing". We have an unique voice. We have the answer. We also have a question. We have a mind that must not be locked. Let's not save ourselves from criticism. It would be better to save ourselves from unnecessary praise. We should not stand in the shadow of the comfort zone and expect others to remain silent every time when we do something noteworthy, even though they may not have done anything and are therefore not fair players in a game where criticism is easily given to others. Let’s be aware of ourselves, because we are not "nothing". We exist. And everytime when we have something to say, we need to say it. Some people will like it, some will not. Someone's opinion will be important to us and someone's not. If it doesn’t matter to you, ignore it. Don't say anything, don't do anything. Or you can say that you are not interested in criticism. And no, that’s not arrogant, it’s just a rational use of your time. If it matters to you, understand and use the criticism in the most appropriate way to improve your work and yourself as a unique person who is not "nothing". Dear readers, these were my thoughts today. You may like them, and you may think they are pointless. Feel free to criticize, I will accept it. Your opinion always counts. Thank you for reading. Article and lead image are original and mine.
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I grew up thinking that I don't deserve to be heard or simply I am just "nothing". I did find my voice to the shock of some people.
I'm sorry about that, it must have been hard for you, but I'm glad you managed to fight for yourself later.
Yes, it was difficult but I am phoenix! I rose from the ashes lol.
We have to accept criticism..Sometimes it's a constructive one and not negative .. don't accept to be "nothing" .. loved it
Yes, we have to accept criticism and if it is negative it can be an incentive for us to be better. Of course, if the criticism comes from people who do not criticize with good intentions and we do not care about their opinion, we have the right to ignore it.
We shouldn't be aware of the praise at our face and criticism on our back ... Criticism on our face is better than the praise on our face.... It effects our personality in both positive and negative way
That's right, criticism affects both positively and negatively, and its influence is useful for us. It can make us better at what we do.
You'll have no problem telling people their good side, but when you criticize some aspects of them and tell them their wrongs, they walk away. If you do this online, they will block it. The truth is still the most painfully bleeding wound of all, and most people are not ready to face the truth when they hear it.
It is most difficult for people to face the truth, to accept it from themselves and even harder when someone else criticizes them. Although it is difficult to accept negative criticism, understanding the essence of criticism can take us far on the path to success.
Haha I think Aristotle made it quite clear when you look at what he said from the opposite view. Lols.
I actually take a different view from Aristotle on this issue of criticism. 😊
Worthy words from Jeli. And did you just mocked a great ancient teacher? 🤭
Noo 😊, I appreciate Aristotle a lot, his thoughts followed me through my studies. I agree with him on many things. I just didn't agree on this.😀
The problem of a person is can't be able to say the truth 🤗
I respect your opinion. 😊
we aren't useless, we are not 'nothing'. each of us has a different purpose in life. Receiving criticism has two different impacts which are negative and positive. It's just that there are some people who get offended ofbeing criticized and won't accept criticism.
Yes. Negative criticism can also have a positive effect, if we understand it in the right way. It can be useful. But many people refuse and become offended.
We most certainly are not nothing, but sometimes the most prudent thing to do, is say nothing!
You're right. Sometimes silence is worth more than words.