Shadows of Enosimania, Guilt That Leads to Fear

Have you ever done something wrong to yourself or someone else? Then we always corner ourselves that we are the wrong people in the eyes of the world. There are many indications that cause feelings of guilt to arise. Starting from our own mistakes because we have behaved inappropriately, the mistakes of others who actually make ourselves a victim, even the trauma experienced when we were small. Guilt also comes because of the failures we have experienced, not being able to achieve what we want, the standards and assumptions that have been set by other people which we ourselves fail to live up to.

Sometimes there is a feeling of guilt within you. Always struggling inside because there are lots of scorn here and there that make this self humiliated and down. Always thinking bad and afraid to make mistakes. Failing to live up to expectations out there and being afraid to try. Especially at the age of a quarter life crisis, feelings of guilt arise because we haven't been successful and get what they want.

Lately, I heard a term that is quite unique. Have you ever heard the term Enosimania? Maybe this term is foreign to you, even I myself have just heard it now. But some of us have experienced this enosimania without us realizing it. Enosimania is a person's condition that he has a fear of making big mistakes. Enosimania is a condition where a person has a fear of making big mistakes and getting criticized by others.

Enosimania is also defined as self-pressure to make mistakes as if the mistakes were irreparable. This condition makes a person think that criticism from others is not used as a reference but instead makes us feel down.

Sometimes humans never escape from mistakes and mistakes. But if this happens, of course, it will endanger the mentality of someone who has an enosimania condition. Until now there has been no specific treatment related to how to overcome enosimania. But specifically in this article, at least I give some boosters or injections of encouragement so that you are not afraid to make a mistake.

1. Feeling Guilt Is Human

Have you ever heard a saying that says humans are in the wrong place and forget. It sounds like this saying is true, guys and I think it's totally agree. Sometimes we like to forget that once in a while we have made a mistake. Ideally everyone has made a mistake and felt guilty. I think it's a human thing. It's natural to reveal the feeling of guilt that is within us.

Everyone must have made a mistake. Be it an intentional or unintentional mistake. Either consciously or unconsciously. His name is that humans always want to grow, progress and process to live life as a valuable lesson.

But remember that doesn't mean you normalize the mistakes you make. What is wrong will still be wrong. What is wrong must be justified. If it is wrong it must be corrected. If it's not, it's better to revise it. Instead, we must learn that we should not repeat the same mistakes. Just once.

Sometimes we feel guilty because we really deserve to be blamed. All of that is natural, his name is also human. There must be something wrong and forget it. We at least remind and justify each other. Not even judging each other let alone insinuating each other.

However, when the error has faded and is worn out and there are people who do it again, that doesn't mean it's normalized. As if the assumption is wrong but making it up is not wrong. Mistakes come because we want to learn and we learn from those mistakes. Errors exist because we need improvement and self-improvement to be better.

2. Don't be afraid to be wrong as long as it's right

Humans are not always right and not always wrong. Except he who always corrects himself and justifies the truth of others for his own mistakes. At this point it all comes back to his point of view. Sometimes humans have flaws and gaps. Feeling guilty is not always seen as a negative feeling.

It's good we know the measure of our feelings of guilt first. Are the mistakes we made can still be tolerated or have gone too far. Remember not always wrong is wrong. What is right is sometimes wrong. Don't be afraid to make mistakes as long as those mistakes will lead you to the right path. If we don't try first, how will we know if we are wrong? From our mistakes we can also know how in the future to be more focused.

From our mistakes, we also know which ones are of good quality and which ones are not. Better to fail than not to try at all. It doesn't matter if you have made a mistake, this is where we can learn to get to the truth. A motivator, Anthony Robbins once said that all the failures and frustrations that have happened in my life have actually become a solid basis for achieving the success that I enjoy now.

It's like if we want to succeed, we must have at least experienced failure. Great success is sometimes paid dearly because of the bitterness of the failures that we feel. Apart from that, we can't be complacent. Do not let us make mistakes let alone become a habit.

3. Change the Mindset of Mistakes

As much as possible we do not avoid mistakes. Don't look for who's at fault. If from the beginning your intention was to find out who was at fault or who made a mistake, then surely there would be no end. It won't be finished. If we are wrong, we will admit it. We are frank to say. It is precisely this form of our confession that leads us to the path of truth. By changing our mindset to look at a mistake, there will be lessons that we can take from the events that we do. Like small stones that are along the road signifies us to always be careful in making mistakes.

Remember, that mistake is not a disgrace that we should cover up. But try to imagine again that when we find the ultimate truth, it actually arises from the mistakes we have made. If we don't make mistakes, we don't know what will happen in the future. That's why life sometimes always has trials that need to be tried. This is where the importance of when we already know that it is wrong. The most important thing is to face the obstacles that lie ahead. Never be afraid to be wrong.

It's okay to be wrong. Later we will find the best way. Rest assured that we will meet with a bright light because of the fruit of our efforts. Every time we take a wrong step, that light will be able to take us to our destination.

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