Love but hate? Maybe you're caught in the feeling of ambivalence

Everyone has a fear of something, as well as a sense of hope for something. Everyone must have had a feeling of loving something or someone, and at the same time hating something or someone. This attitude will be formed when living and dealing with life events that will be lived, this will later affect a person's emotions and soul. Sometimes conflicting emotions can also come together. This is what is called ambivalent, for example feelings of love but hate.

People who are struck by this feeling will only make it difficult for themselves and also suck energy, especially the ambivalent feelings that often arise in love problems. For example, when you ask your friends for advice about wanting to break up with your boyfriend and your friends also support it, but suddenly your attitude changes, ah, how about that? When will you meet someone like him again? I can't break up. These thoughts often frustrate a person and put him in bad thoughts because the relationship is not making him happy and allows him to plan a breakup.

When others advised him to be patient, he whined. When told to break up, he admits that he still loves him, when he is told to love, he already hates it. Sometimes friends who have given advice and take the time and give heartfelt advice in the end it is their own decision that will be followed. People who experience ambivalence tend to be often unstable in making decisions or judging someone. That is the ambivalence of the human spirit, fear on one side of the soul and on the other side there is hope. Fear and hope are two opposing lines and are at opposite angles to each other.

Ambivalence in a relationship is painful. Because basically someone does not believe in themselves and their feelings. And always unsure. One sign that someone is in an ambivalent state is wanting love but being afraid. Sometimes there is a thought that falling in love can bring sadness in life, so this causes a person to never stop finding a suitable partner.

There is no problem without a solution, everyone must have felt a dilemma, doubt, especially in a relationship. But basically the problems that arise within are self manifestations of negative feelings that are lodged in the heart.

So we need to deal with it wisely. Considering the fact that not always going according to desire is something that must be faced, then at that time we must be careful, for that we need a unified heart and commensurate thoughts so as not to fall into a deep abyss.