The Difficulties Of Men Yet Are Less Appreciated

Life doesn't get easier when you get a woman. It gets harder. Honest people know this.

Yet one of the most unpopular truths that provokes ridiculous reactions even in men is to say that women drag you down more than they help you.People hate hearing this. Makes them defensive.

You get all these nonsense replies like"Maybe you've just met the wrong kind of woman"or "Men and women were made for each other and complement each other equally"Or some other nonsense.

All total cope, if you think women help men as much as men help them, you're delusional ,It's the same with kids. Kids make life harder and drag you down as well. In the hierarchy of neediness, men are least needy and children are most - with women in the middle.

Needy people make life harder, as they take up time and energy you'd otherwise allocate to building. Does that mean you shouldn't have kids or get a woman?

No. These challenges can provide fresh meaning, and produce their own unique spiritual rewards. Just realise every time you get with a woman or have an extra kid, you're increasing the difficulty level of your life.

Women are always the ones pushing for more. They want a baby. They want another baby. They want to get married. Why are the women always pushing for these things, rather than the men?

Because it's the men who bear the brunt of the increase in difficulty - not the women.

Don't get me wrong, a woman who's just had a child has certainly made her life harder. Before nobody relied on her. Now a child relies on her. But for the man, before it was just a woman relying on him, now it's a woman + a child relying on him. He has more people relying on him.

An easy life bereft of meaning is not a life worth living - and yet as with all things, difficulty should only rise in line with one's competence. You don't jump straight from beginner to expert. You work your way up slowly.

Jumping into the deep end is how you wreck yourself. Bearing all this in mind, you would think the needier sex would be the more grateful one, right? Wrong.

It is more common for a man to be deeply thankful just to have any woman, than it is for a woman to be profoundly grateful for the man who cares for her.

You will hear "he's lucky to have her" or "I'm lucky to have her" more than "she's lucky to have him" and "I'm lucky to have him"

Women are far less modest, yet men are more pathetic. For women are more desperate than men when single, yet less grateful than men when taken.

The key to a lasting relationship is a sense of mutual appreciation, irrespective of the disparity in difficulty. If we accept we're a hierarchical species and that gender's a strong delineator of hierarchy, then it's absurd to be upset about "one having it harder than the other"

So it's not a matter of fairness in so much as it is a matter of gratitude, and readiness to endure and take on additional burden.

Man's life is just one unending series of mounting burden, and a man who takes on more burden than he can endure collapses under the weight of it all

But given that man's burden is indeed the greatest, for he has not only the children, but the eternal adolescent, the woman to care for - he deserves the deepest gratitude and greatest thanks. Men build great empires and move whole oceans for little more than profound gratitude.

In this sense women make men better, not because they are an asset, but because they are a challenge, and, when they are the right kind of challenge - they moralise rather than demoralise. They give him a sense of purpose, even if they slow him down by making his life harder.

So you can think of a good woman as a gracious cheerleader. Her beauty both inside and out inspires the man, irrespective of the imposition of her needs. The beauty of her loins and the modesty of her soul transcends the ugliness of her neediness to invigorate him.

That is a best case scenario.

When such beauty is absent, the partnership loses its wholesome spiritual component and becomes parasitic. The man is demoralised, drained, like an unappreciated slave. He grows resentful, so he begins to crave freedom. He is slowly checking out.

A truly wise woman then is not only modest enough to accept the burden she represents - but mindful enough to actively counterbalance it by showering her man in beauty. She realises she keeps a man by showering him in the beauty of gratitude from the depths of her soul.

Women who fail to do this & allow themselves to become resentful (whether rightfully or wrongfully) will fail to keep their man in the long run.

There has to be some advantage, some reward, some positive for the man. You can't just endlessly mount him with burden with no thanks.

This is why narcissism although a terrible ugliness in general, is particularly ugly in woman. Because at least narcissistic men provide.

What does an immodest woman have to offer a man at all in any meaningful spiritual sense?

She will cause him nothing but pain and problems.

All a woman has is her gratitude. She lives + dies by it, because it defines her immaterial beauty. And so modesty for that reason alone is the chief + primary attribute women should cultivate and men should covet.

For without it, there can be no permanence, only temporariness.

This is why it's important for a man to cultivate a culture of appreciation within his relationship, and to set the pace at which he adopts additional burden.

Don't let women pressure you into taking on burdens you're unsuited to, and yet at the same time, do not lead her on.

Women feel anxiety about their fleeting fertility, but Rome wasn't built in a day. As such, your timescales are at odds and one party is forced to compromise.

The only real solution is to ensure a wider age difference. Older, more established men with younger, unanxious women...

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