When The Chicken Comes Home To Roost

This idiom has got my attention when a friend chatted with me about his situation.

He was a high school friend of mine, I was in my 4th year and he was in his 3rd year. We became close because of an organization we had in school. We were both members of the English Club organization.

This guy is an introvert like me and it took a long run for us to become friends. It's not like we were enemies first before we became friends but neither one of us wanted to start a conversation whenever the group huddles for a meeting. I just can't find a reason to start a conversation anyway, and small talks are my pet peeves.

So the friendship started when the English club week began and our club president paired us to facilitate an activity. So then, we were forced to talk to each other and strategize how to handle the event.

By the way, this article is not about us. It's about him with another girl who dumped him because of introversion 🤦‍♀️

After that partnership, we sort of getting along with each other, and from then on, the friendship is always there. He's working at the Municipal Hall in Cagayan de Oro City as an IT staff.

My classmates even thought that we were in a romantic relationship but there was never an us. 😆 We're cool. Although I admit that he confessed his feelings to me but friendship is all I can offer. Feeling gwapa 😆

So last Saturday as I was eating my dinner, he chatted me on Facebook Messenger with a lot of crying emojis(😭).

Here's what he said:

Maam?? Nganu dghan kaayo ko ug mga downs kron maam? 😭 Lami lge kaayo ihilak maam. Pero kung ihilak nko maam . Dli jpon man gud mawala maam 😭😭😭😭

In English:

Ma'am?? Why do I have so many down situations lately? I want to cry so hard. But crying doesn't help.

I asked him what's the matter and he said:

The "maam" and emojis are making me sick but I felt the sadness and regrets.

He said that there's this girl who showed concern and cared for him for more than a year. This girl is his officemate. They've been officemates for 3 years now but just a year ago when the girl became too close to him and fell for him to be exact.

Now, this guy is not giving the same feelings for the girl yet. He explained that he was not ready yet, he was not complete yet and he's still afraid to commit to a relationship, and all that sh*t. It took months for them to have that kind of special friendship. Eventually, my friend fell in love with the girl already and changed his behaviors for her. However, he didn't say it to her. He just showed extra concern and care for the girl. He didn't say his feelings towards the girl.

Here's the game-changer.

When he finally said to the girl that he's ready to commit and enter the relationship, the girl told him that there's another guy who's courting her and she's entertaining him.

That shattered his world and broke his heart into pieces.

When the chicken comes home to roost.

This means to say that one's previous actions will eventually have consequences or cause problems for oneself.

This will serve as a lesson to him. He is full of regret. He's heartbroken, he can't think of anything positive. He blamed himself for being such a coward. This is the consequence of his actions before.

I told him that it's so rare for a girl to show her care consistently and you took it for granted because of your ego. I told him that he was being selfish the whole time. He didn't think of the girl's feelings and he was just thinking of himself all throughout.

He could have given it a chance and make himself grow while they are together right? And now that he's ready, another guy steals the spotlight.

I even told him to sing That should be me by Justin Bieber. 😆

Kidding aside, I told him that there's no point in blaming since everything has happened and the damage has been done. What he gotta do is to move forward and continue to be a good guy.

The problem is, they are officemates and they see each other almost every day. That makes it hard for him to move forward and awkward at the same time.

I can really say he's a good guy. It's just that his personality is off and weird that's why I told him that this will serve as his lesson. Life is short and he shouldn't miss every opportunity that comes at him. There's a lot of things he should learn.

Well, it's just that he has no intentions of taking advantage of the girl's feelings and he remained true to himself. But still, in every action comes with an equal and opposite reaction as Isaac Newton said.

So that's how the chicken comes home to roost.

Thanks for reading!

Keep safe everyone. ❤